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[xXDonnaXx]

I split up with my fiance in october, because he wanted time away to think about things. Because i'd been moody everyday & we just constantly argued. He said he didnt want to be with me until he's had a think. He didn't know how long he wanted to hiself. But I said i'm not waiting around. I was fine when we split, abit hurt but suprisingly not alot. Anyway, about four weeks have passed now, and i've been ok. Coped by keeping myself busy, etc. But today I've seen his Bebo profile. His mate says on his comments "Yeah, Emo birds are gorgeous aint they" and "Yeah thats it, keep your options open innit" - and there's loads of girls that he's chatting to. He hasn't mentioned that he's a DAD-TO-BE on his profile. He's not said it to anybody. It's hurt me. & the fact that the other day when I rang him he said "Who says were going to be split up 4eva?" "I still love you" etc. Then say he's into emo birds. Hurts. I can't eat my tea coz of it. Why did I have a child with him seriously. He's scum. I hate him. He's hurt me. & my baby's got a waste of a space dad. Brilliant.

 

[Serene123]

 

[tootsy1987]

awww hun! im really sorry, i dont know what to say but didnt want to read and run!.... what a waste of space!! was he up for having a child when u first got pregnant? i hate it when blokes go like that but then he's probably having a 'panick' stage just before the bubbas born but thats noo excuse as he has to be 100% faithful to you if he wants to be a family! have u meantioned the comments on his bebo??

XXXX

 

[ellasmummy]

Hope you are ok hun

I dont really know what to say, just try to eat something atleast. Your little girl can feel you being sad and she needs a happy and healthy Mummy! There is still time for him to come round, it may just be the birth getting closer, it all seems to be coming real and your hormones are all over the place. Reality is probably kicking in and its hit him and he has panicked. Hope it all turns out ok hun. You take care x

 

[Kimboowee]

I'd write on his bebo, when it comes to things like this im like a bull in a china shop!

Men are just too confusing, he might be getting cold feet about the whole baby thing and come round at the end. If no atleast she will have one loving parent
x

 

[nikky0907]

I'd also be writing on his bebo a comment about the baby.
I may be revengful but dodging responsibility towards your own child is the lowest to me!

And also,if he really refuses to have anything with Lexi,file for support.

 

[welshcakes79]

oh hun, im so sorry
x

 

[polo_princess]

 

[xXDonnaXx]

I have commented on his profile. And guess what, he deleted my comment... So everyone wouldn't see. He's also been texting a girl till early hours in the morning, I've lost my feelings for him now. He needs to be a dad. He's not even trying. I so admire you single mummy's. I know it's gonna be hard. But I can do it. I'm just not happy I have to keep intouch with him all my life. Normally I split up with someone and theyre out my life for good. Not this time..

 

[brownhairedmom]

Write on his profile when you know he can't access it and that loads of other people can see it. Like when he's at work, for example.

What an idiot.

 

[nessajane]

aww hun it's his loss!!

he'll realise within time what he's lost when he sees you and lexi getting on with your lives!!

I bet he'll soon come running back!! then you can have the greatest feeling of telling him to get lost and its too little too late!! He cant think he can drop you and pick you up when he wants too!!

Dont let it get you down too much and make sure you eat something you need to be strong for lexi hun xx

 

[princess_bump]

keep strong donna for lexi's sake, he doesn't deserve a lovely person like you x x x

 

[orange-sox]

Oh Donna

Stay strong for Lexi sweetheart.

Men are complete shitbags

 

[Novbaby08]

I split up with my fiance in october, because he wanted time away to think about things. Because i'd been moody everyday & we just constantly argued. He said he didnt want to be with me until he's had a think. He didn't know how long he wanted to hiself. But I said i'm not waiting around. I was fine when we split, abit hurt but suprisingly not alot. Anyway, about four weeks have passed now, and i've been ok. Coped by keeping myself busy, etc. But today I've seen his Bebo profile. His mate says on his comments "Yeah, Emo birds are gorgeous aint they" and "Yeah thats it, keep your options open innit" - and there's loads of girls that he's chatting to. He hasn't mentioned that he's a DAD-TO-BE on his profile. He's not said it to anybody. It's hurt me. & the fact that the other day when I rang him he said "Who says were going to be split up 4eva?" "I still love you" etc. Then say he's into emo birds. Hurts. I can't eat my tea coz of it. Why did I have a child with him seriously. He's scum. I hate him. He's hurt me. & my baby's got a waste of a space dad. Brilliant.

Its ok, my baby's dad did the same thing, on his myspace suddenly some random girls were added to his top 8 and I was even on there, he didn't mention he was expecting at all. It pissed me off. But I really don't care anymore. Its hard the first few weeks, even months, but you get over it. Obviously he used "needs time to think about it" as an excuse. Let him rot over it. He's being selfish, and remember when that little girl is born, your not the one who will suffer in the long run, he will. He's the one who will miss out. I'm bitter as hell towards my ex, i heard a few months ago he broke his arm, just about died laughing and felt that he deserved worse then that. I'm probably bitter to an unhealthy level. Which isn't a good thing. But I've excepted that someday hes going to look back and regret not being there for our daughter, and will suffer from it, he won't be on the birth certificate, there is no reason to add them unless you know you'll get child support from them. But your Ex will regret his decision to leave one day, and even though pregnancy was hard alone, your the one who wins in the end.

 

[xXDonnaXx]

Aw Thanks Novbaby. I'm letting him be in her life, but the thing is he's not contacting me to ask how I am, or to say he's bought something for Lexie. He's not bought anything for her. He's just going to the pub, drinkin, smokin (he quit wen we got 2geva), But obv started now were split, textin girls, telling them they are gorgeous. What?...4 weeks after we split. I h8 his gutts, but I want my baby to have her real dad there. I've told him I'm over him, and I deserve better. He agrees. Ha. I just wished I'd realised that earlier. I feel better today. Im just riled up inside.

 

[nessajane]

im glad you feel better today hun xx

 

[lollylou1]

sorry he is being such a dick hunni, you do deserve better than him and make sure that you always remember that.
you will do great on your own and you will have all your family, friends and BnB friends to help and support you, if he wants to be part of lexies life then thats great if not he misses out on the most special thing in his life

Lou
xxx

 

[xCorkettex]

So many guys are doing this(alot of my friends are going through the same)-do they think they have a right?
It makes my blood boil.
Please stay positive-i know its hard, iv been there but its so rewarding to turn round and say 'wow,look at that- I made a happy,healthy child.....ON MY OWN!'

*hug*

 

[brownhairedmom]

You know what I've decided, the very best revenge to them is to act like you don't care what they're doing. He's doing it to get to you on purpose, just like Adam did with me. You need to ignore him, make him feel like he's not worth the ground you walk on and that you truly, truly don't care (even if you do). It'll be interesting to watch how quickly the tables turn when he realizes he isn't having an affect on you anymore.

 

[ryder]

Sorry to hear about this