Hi ladies
Having a really rough time, i seem to be stuck in a loop of grief that i cant seem to get out of. My OH doesnt understand he - he says its not good being constantly miserable and that we have to look to the future but for me, i see no future. My baby boy is dead so whats the point. All our hopes and dreams are gone. I would have been having my baby next month now its all over. Sometimes i feel ok but then other times my feelings just overwhelm me i feel so angry at myself, the world, everything. I see pregnant women and want to scream 'why cant i have a baby', i feel like a total failure. i feel almost ashamed that i couldnt carry our baby full term, my body starved him. i know deep down theres nothing i could have done but sometimes the guilt i feel is like a physical pain.
i go to work and put on the fake 'happy face' all day then go home and the pain eats me up inside. people go on as if i lost a fetus, like he wasnt a real baby. I get 'awww it was just one of those things' - feel like telling them to f**k off honestly. My baby dying was more than 'one of those things'. i hate the prospect that my next pregnancy would be so high risk if i have this clotting disorder and that i only have a 75% chance of success. of course, im willing to go through 40 weeks of sheer terror at the thought of this happening again but it just seems so unfair, its so unfair that we are all here on this board because we have gone through such tragedies.
sorry ladies just needed to vent
Having a really rough time, i seem to be stuck in a loop of grief that i cant seem to get out of. My OH doesnt understand he - he says its not good being constantly miserable and that we have to look to the future but for me, i see no future. My baby boy is dead so whats the point. All our hopes and dreams are gone. I would have been having my baby next month now its all over. Sometimes i feel ok but then other times my feelings just overwhelm me i feel so angry at myself, the world, everything. I see pregnant women and want to scream 'why cant i have a baby', i feel like a total failure. i feel almost ashamed that i couldnt carry our baby full term, my body starved him. i know deep down theres nothing i could have done but sometimes the guilt i feel is like a physical pain.
i go to work and put on the fake 'happy face' all day then go home and the pain eats me up inside. people go on as if i lost a fetus, like he wasnt a real baby. I get 'awww it was just one of those things' - feel like telling them to f**k off honestly. My baby dying was more than 'one of those things'. i hate the prospect that my next pregnancy would be so high risk if i have this clotting disorder and that i only have a 75% chance of success. of course, im willing to go through 40 weeks of sheer terror at the thought of this happening again but it just seems so unfair, its so unfair that we are all here on this board because we have gone through such tragedies.
sorry ladies just needed to vent