I admit it.. i hate my OH family (well most of them)

[Kristalebear1]

Just a rant. My OH and I have been together years, I've met his father once, one of his brothers once. That's it. His brothers talk shit about me because they hate that OH doesn't follow their tails anymore, and do drugs/drink/club. I told my OH when we got together I was looking for something with a future and would not put up with drinking and drugs if he wanted to do that then he could simply date someone else (this was on our first date, we had been talking for months though). He chose to give it up, occasionally he has a beer with me that's it. He no longer smokes pot, and even though I encourage him to go out he doesn't club, he usually just hangs with his buds and plays games. He hasn't done anything since the day we made it official so quite a few years.

OHs brothers hate me, his dad simply has made no effort to get to know me although he doesn't seem phased by me.

And I hate them, for not giving me a chance, I didn't force OHs to stop he could have not dated me, he could have not continued to see me, He chose to. We have a daughter together now and his family has yet to meet her, whereas my family who lives in FLORIDA literally on the other side of the U.S has bought a ticket to see her. (his family is more than financially capable, mine actually struggled to save for months) his brothers live in Vegas where we live, his dad in Oregon. His dad could literally drive down here (and he has before to see OH brother and took OH to dinner) his brothers are minutes away by car. They made it clear they don't like me. And it makes me resent them, I hate that they hate me, that they wont give me a chance. I've never done anything wrong. OH has never bad talked me (he isn't the type to get into drama unlike his brothers) and I've never said anything bad to OH about his family.

I can't take it. OH and I are not yet married but I feel like the reason I'm not in a rush is because of this barrier between his family and me. Mind you his cousins have never met me but love me and Isobel. They sent her gifts, constantly ask how I am, but I feel that later down the line the gap between his brothers/dad and I could become an issue if we marry. I hate this.

Opinions? Anyone else been through something similar with family not liking you?

 

[lcmorla]

When I was 7 months pregnant my bf's mom called me a bitch. She was angry with me because I got upset at her when she jokingly called my daughter(at the time, unborn) a bitch. I was so sad and angry that I cried everyday for a month. I was mad at my boyfriend for not really defending me but since then we've worked out this issue. I've seen her once, in the hospital the day after my daughter was born. I was clearly unhappy that she was there but whatever. Just this past Sunday she told my boyfriend that she was gonna come over and see her granddaughter. She didn't come which is fine.

 

[87BeautyQueen]

I'm no help, but I think many (most!) people have problems with their inlaws (outlaws!). It sucks that they are like that but they sound like they have the problem not you.. you could have an intervention?? but that could possibly make it worse.. what does your partner think?

 

[smurff]

A few members of my husbands family dislike me and I think it's hilarious, basically they are just jealous and have such sad little lives they have to keep going on about ours. She never calls to see how her niece and nephew are yet she constantly calls her other nephews to see how they are. We travelled 8hrs by car with a 2 month old baby and a 2yr old toddler in the back to go see her last year. A few months back she was visiting other family members and she drove past our front door and didn't even pop in to see the kids. We didn't even know she was in the area and only found out cause she put it on fb. When I was pregnant with my first we told her first and all she did was burst into tears and ignore us for 3 months cause she was jealous. She even knew there was a chance it was ectopic and we had a 2wk wait to find out and she still didnt call. She was pregnant with her 1st when I found out I was pregnant with 2nd, the first thing she said when she found out was oh I knew you'd do that!. If attention isn't on her she doesn't like it. It doesn't bother me in the slightest if she don't like me. I have a wonderful husband. 2 amazing children, a lovely house by the beech where I've wanted to live all my life. I have family and friends 20 mins away and I love my life. If she feels the need to act childish then she obviously ain't loving her life.