Spoke to FOB last night after weeks of no contact.
Dunno why I expected him to have grown up in that short space of time.
Anyway, I can relax (if you have read my previous posts). He is not interested in custody or playing an active role. As I said he will be living abroad and for him that's just perfect as it means he does not have to be here. He basically admitted that himself.
Good news is, the in laws want contact and I will be speaking to them this weekend so he lied when he told me that they wasn't interested and thought I was lying about the baby - apparently they have been wanting to contact me for a few weeks now.
He is going to give me money, and hopefully pay for a few things like a push chair etc before the LO is here.
Being 20 and as immature as he is I don't hate him for his decision - I just feel like I have let my baby down not being able to convince him to be involved. I told him I would never force him to be in LO's life if his heart was not in it but when he was ready he would be welcome.
As it stands, we probably won't speak now for a few months until I need money for things - but I have left the offer of coming to the scan open to him so he may change his mind by then (2 weeks time).
If not, I feel so much better having spoken to him and getting the answers I needed and can relax a bit more now.
Dunno why I expected him to have grown up in that short space of time.
Anyway, I can relax (if you have read my previous posts). He is not interested in custody or playing an active role. As I said he will be living abroad and for him that's just perfect as it means he does not have to be here. He basically admitted that himself.
Good news is, the in laws want contact and I will be speaking to them this weekend so he lied when he told me that they wasn't interested and thought I was lying about the baby - apparently they have been wanting to contact me for a few weeks now.
He is going to give me money, and hopefully pay for a few things like a push chair etc before the LO is here.
Being 20 and as immature as he is I don't hate him for his decision - I just feel like I have let my baby down not being able to convince him to be involved. I told him I would never force him to be in LO's life if his heart was not in it but when he was ready he would be welcome.
As it stands, we probably won't speak now for a few months until I need money for things - but I have left the offer of coming to the scan open to him so he may change his mind by then (2 weeks time).
If not, I feel so much better having spoken to him and getting the answers I needed and can relax a bit more now.
