I could really use some advice? =)

[unsurenah]

Hey guys,
I may not be in the right place, I don't really know but hopefully someone can give me some advice?
I'm 18, I've fallen pregnant with my first and I do not know whether I should keep it. My situation is slightly complicated, but I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months, and he already has 2 children. I really want this child but I don't know if its the right thing.
We have spoke about it and agree we both want it, yet we both know it maybe isnt for the best. Money wouldnt be easy and we dont live together or anything.
Should I listen to my heart? or to my head?
Please help me, I am very lost right now
x

 

[rubixcyoob.]

Congrats first of all, but I should warn you we don't talk about abortions on here. This is for people keeping their baby or possibly adoption

If you two have your heart set on keeping your little one, then I would go with that, because if not, it will be something you regret deeply.

Plenty of teenagers don't live with their boyfriend/babys father and things work out fine me and my boyfriend don't live together and he isn't sure whether he will be in a flat with a uni friend next year or back home. I'll definately be back home. But all through summer we will have varying weeks at each others houses and then when semester starts again, coordinate so that he can see me and the baby as much as possible - the same way we do now

As for money, there is plenty of support.
In the UK there is income support which then grants housing benefit and council tax benefit and the sure start maternity grant; child tax credits; child benefit; vouchers for veggies, fruit, milk and infant forumla; health in pregnancy grant; plus childcare costs and such.

So if it is these two issues that are putting you off I wouldn't let it stop you from becoming a mummy since this is what, you have said, in you're hearts both you and your boyfriend want xxx

 

[xMissxZoiex]

I think its is a very hard decision to make, and i havent been in this situation myself but if you want this baby then you will work everything out one way or the other because you have to.

Just so you know that mentioning the 'A' word is against the rules hunni

Sorry i couldnt be more help x

 

[supriseBump_x]

If u want bubs then u know what to do. U'll regret it if you dont!
I suggest u come back if u decide to keep your baby, This is a touchy subject and causes upset to alot of the girls on here. Some of the members have been trying to conceive for a very long time...
If u do decide not to go through with your pregnancy i think you should look into different types of contraception!!

 

[Natasha2605]

If you both want the baby and your only issues are the ones you've identified then as rubixcyoob said there's plenty of help that will be available to you. I fell pregnant with my LO when me and my OH had been together about 10 weeks or something and we're still together and so in love. As long as there's love for your baby from you( and your OH) you'll find a way Good luck with whatever you decide xx

 

[Vickie]

Per forum rules and TOS:

While BabyandBump tries to remain pro-choice on most subjects, out of respect for majority of our members that are either trying to conceive, or pregnant, we ask that you do not discuss topics on abortion and terminations.

I'm sure the girls here will be more than happy to answer any questions you have regarding financial support and what you can expect if you do go through with the pregnancy. Can I suggest you make a new thread for those specific questions?

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