I didn't realise

[Rebaby]

I am so sorry for your loss

 

[Peach Blossom]

So sorry for your loss. It happened to me yesterday. I had a scan 3 weeks ago and saw the hb, but had another scan yesterday and they told me there was no hb. It was such a crushing devastating moment. All I could think of was seeing the hb on the screen 3 weeks ago and the joy that I had felt. I would have been 11 weeks tomorrow. My heart goes out to you.

 

[Schmelly]

Why do I feel compelled to keep it quiet with just us 2? Maybe because so few others have said much more than they are sorry. It makes me feel like I am exagerating, but I can't help but recognise that I would probably have been the same. I didn't realise that losing such a small life would have such a big impact, I thought it made it easier if you had never touched them with your hand or seen their eyes look into yours. It makes me feel so bereft!

I totally relate to this. I feel like I'm exaggerating too, and like I really should be 'ok' by now. But I'm not, so please don't think you're alone. We've decided to put our little beany in the garden bcause that feels like we are acknowledging the loss, respecting the little life lost, but at the same time keeping it to ourselves. I just can't handle worrying about what other people are thinking, so it feels better to know that we are keeping it between the two of us.

But if you feel that having some kind of ceremony is the right thing for you then just do it. And who cares what other people think. You don't want to have any regrets otherwise it'll make the whole situation so much more difficult to handle.

Good luck