I don't know how I'm going to cope

[x_manxie_x]

So looks like I'm going to be a single mum me and OH have been going through a rough patch and he just wants us to be friends. I'm glad he's still going to be there for the baby and he is a nice guy, but seriously I can't imagine not being with him, the thought of him with someone else kills me we were looking at places last week cos we we're going to move in together and now he's telling me we're over. It might have been niave but I genuinely thought I was gonna marry this guy! we always talked about it, and 2 days ago he told me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me...and now this.
I'm not even excited about this baby coming along she wasn't planned and we're both young, don't get me wrong I do want her now that she's here but I can't seem to love her atm, and that's awful. I dunno how I'm going to manage financially and I just can't deal with everyone I know asking me questions about me and OH and what happened etc.
No one will look at me twice with a baby either, and I'm scared of being on my own, I need to feel loved...I know the baby will love me but it's a different kind of love. Just don't think I'm strong enough to get through this tbh. I really don't know how you all manage!

Sorry for the rant

 

[brownhairedmom]

So looks like I'm going to be a single mum me and OH have been going through a rough patch and he just wants us to be friends. I'm glad he's still going to be there for the baby and he is a nice guy, but seriously I can't imagine not being with him, the thought of him with someone else kills me we were looking at places last week cos we we're going to move in together and now he's telling me we're over. It might have been niave but I genuinely thought I was gonna marry this guy! we always talked about it, and 2 days ago he told me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me...and now this.
I'm not even excited about this baby coming along she wasn't planned and we're both young, don't get me wrong I do want her now that she's here but I can't seem to love her atm, and that's awful. I dunno how I'm going to manage financially and I just can't deal with everyone I know asking me questions about me and OH and what happened etc.
No one will look at me twice with a baby either, and I'm scared of being on my own, I need to feel loved...I know the baby will love me but it's a different kind of love. Just don't think I'm strong enough to get through this tbh. I really don't know how you all manage!

Sorry for the rant

I know how you feel. The part I bolded there, it isn't true. I worried about that my entire pregnancy, and now I'm dating someone and had 4 other guys ask me on a date. Its only been 5 weeks too. Becoming a mom is the best thing that ever happened to my dating life

 

[soleildujour]

Firstly congratulations on your pregnancy


Don't worry, you will be fine. I beleive what happen to your boyfreind is when u go to make a step in life, or a change you get nervous and u can do anything, he is not prepared,he is young, so it's normal!
So, Just try to keep the positive thoughts and enjoy your end of pregnancy and I am sure he will change his mind once your baby is born because having a baby it's different, amazing experience that will change your and his life. So, again, hope for the best!

 

[eclipse]

And even if he doesn't change his mind, you can do this. Many have. And one day you will find that person that wants to be with you and your daughter because you are the whole package. Concentrate on yourself and your health right now. Don't worry about all the rest. You are stronger than you think. You are amazing, and if he is too stupid to realize what he is giving up, you deserve better anyway. I wish you the best.

 

[Little_C]

My ex said exactly the same to me on Sunday, and it's quite strange but I'm feeling a lot better about it already. I thought the same as you that with a baby on the way no-one would want to know...and I know this is going to sound really sad but I thought I'd try it. I went on that match.com website and signed up, made a profile, etc, and was shocked by the amount of guys on there that I've been talking to even with them knowing everything! Obviously I'm not planning on jumping into a relationship with anyone else, but it really did help to know that not all guys are the same, and not all of them will run when they hear about the baby! Hope things look up soon for you!

 

[jade8701]

i heard a saying once... one door closing is another opening or something like that... i know that dnt help how u feel butt, when u think about it, in the long rrun, it cud may well be true

 

[kayjor04]

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No one will look at me twice with a baby either, and I'm scared of being on my own, I need to feel loved...I know the baby will love me but it's a different kind of love. Just don't think I'm strong enough to get through this tbh. I really don't know how you all manage!

This, my love... isnt true. I know it may feel like that now... and its going to for the first little while.. but honestly, your not going to be interested in looking for a man for a while. My daughter is just about 6 months old... and i've been ona few dates, and now have a guy whom i'm currently just friends with, but that has potential to be more.... Not all guys are turned off of women with children... you may have to slightly adjust the kind of guy you date.

I know it seems hard now... but your going to make it thru.. and who knows, maybe he had a little freak out, i mean a baby isnt just a big deal to the one carrying it.. his life is changed forever too... so give it some time. once he sees that beautiful babe he may think "what the hell was i thinking?!"