i dont know how to feel

[beetlebailey]

After my miscarriage on tuesday i have (as you can imagine) been through the mix of emotions but now i dont know how i should be feeling. I was 5 weeks but didnt know i was pregnant so it feels like some people are thinking i shouldnt be so upset about it but i am beside myself. I dont know how i feel about having sex again and i dont know how i feel about wanting a baby again yet even though this is what i want more than anything. Its horrible. I suppose its just the grief i have been through but i am all over the place. Thank you for reading this XXX

 

[Wishfull]

So sorry for your loss.
Its only been a few of days sweetie. I would say you've got a little bit of a terrible journey ahead. Meaning you will be feeling all sorts all at one time. Anger, hate, sorrow, disbileif. Its horrible having to have to go through this. None fo us should have to go through such feelings.
I had my miscarriage 5 weeks ago. So im looking back thinking how i felt.
At the time i was over come with all of the abaove and so much more. The crying the pain the everything.
Its a shame some people are making you feeling like you shouldnt be upset. You may have lost something you didnt know about. But oh how much i know you would have wanted your baby. Its not fair that you never got the chance to find out until the terribleness of losing your baby. But thats exactly that, you lost your baby. You lost apart of you and its also a shame that no-one will ever know how you feel.
After my miscarriage i couldnt even contemplate having sex for a while. But in time me and my partner found it to be natural like it was before.
So mainly what i ment to say was that its normal to feel all over the place. I hope you have someone there to support you.
If not were all here to try to help.
So sorry sweetie for your loss.
If you ever want a chat or just to vent PM me when ever.
It will get easyier sweetie
Take care
x

 

[fairywings]

Thanks for replying to my thread, I hope you feel better soon, must be a huge shock. Sorry for your loss.

 

[cleckner04]

I just wanted to say I'm sorry for your loss. No matter how far along you were or how long you knew about it, it was still your baby. You are entitled to all kinds of feelings right now. And I'm sure you'll feel alot of different emotions. I'm so sorry though. Things like this just should never happen.

 

[buffycat]

i am so sorry for your loss....a mc i such an awful thing to go through..........take time to heal, both emotionally and physically...

luv & hugs

 

[sam76]

Hello i have had 2 m/c and i know its hurts, but time will heal, we all will be great parents one day xxxxxxxxxx

 

[Drazic<3]

Im so sorry for your loss.
I know everything seems a mess and a muddle now, but i promise things will become clearer with time.
Noone has the right to tell you how to feel. Losing a baby is heartbreaking whenever it happens. Please let yourself grieve, and in time you will feel better

 

[mugzy]

Regardless of whether or not you knew about it, your body is still full of pregnancy hormones and you know about it now. It hurts to loose a baby. Even if it's early. I had an early miscarriage last year (at 5 weeks), it was only a couple of days after I'd got a BFP, and it wasn't planned so people assumed I wouldn't be upset. I was though - I lost something incredibly special. It may have been a bundle of cells, but it was MY bundle of cells and would have grown to be someone I would have loved. All I can say is it does get easier. When my babies due date came around, I was 6 weeks pregnant and had made peace with it. I lit a candle for the baby that wasn't meant to be, and then placed my focus on the one inside me. It's still early - you need to let yourself feel sad and don't let anyone tell you that you shouldn't be.

 

[Loo]

You don't 'have to' feel like anything. Everyone's greiving process is different and personal to them. Don't let anyone tell you you shouldn't be upset. You say it 'feels like' people are saying you shouldn't be upset, rather than they have actually said anything - so just remember that might be how you are interpretting it, but in reality it may just be that they are unsure what to say/do and are not portraying their sympathy very effectively. Or they could be heartless gits who haven't been through this themselves and don't understand how truly devastating it feels!

Especially don't worry about sex or more babies yet, you will start to think about them when you are ready.

Hugs xx