i dont know how to feel

[splodge]

Hi Ladies, im sorry if im writing in the wrong place but just wanted some info/let things of my chest/reasurance....

im 22 weeks pregnant with my first and for the past few weeks just feel so down. i know that hormones are all over at the min but this just does not seem to be going away, im haveing problems at work which i just cry about when i get home, me and OH are argueing non stop, money worries.

im waking every night at around 2 and not getting back to sleep till around 5, im really worrying for my baby because i now feel like im going to be a bad mum, i feel guilty because i love my baby so much and he is so wanted, i feel bad for feeling this way when i should be happy (which i am about my lil man) but all i seem to do is cry? there are women out there who would kill to be in my posistion and im just selfish for feeling like this!

sorry for the moan girls and thank you for reading xxx

 

[angels330]

*hug* you're not selfish at all for feeling like you are, and you certainly arent the only one who has felt similar to what you do, myself included! if you're having problems at work, is there anyone you can talk to? venting really helps and i have to say, there are lots of lovely ladies on here that are willing to listen and to give advice. im sorry to hear that this is keeping you up night, all i can say is try and stay relaxed, vent all you need to and just look forward to that moment you get to see your baby for the first time! x

 

[Abblebubba]

I am 21 weeks pregnant and i feel like this i can totally relate to you. i cry all the time uncontrollably, you wont be a bad mum, and you are not selfish.
As said above talking to someone helps and dont bottle it all up if you are feeling emotional, it is ok to feel this way think of all the major changes your body is going through, anyone would feel the same.
I am new here but messege me if you fancy a chat, me and my son to be will gladly listen to you

 

[Serene123]

Ah, pregnancy is a scarey, scarey time. Especially when you feel unstable. Unstability can be caused by money problems, arguing, and many more things. It's perfectly normal to be upset. However crying isn't good for baby and you should try and sort your problems out. We're all here if you need to talk, and you should never feel bad for showin your emotions. If you're sad then be sad, because if you hold it in you will be sad for longer..

Try and sort things with your OH, speak to him.

 

[mz_jackie86]

Your not selfish for feelin this way! Your normal!
Talk to your OH about how u feel, maybe he is feelin the same!
Your hormones are all over the place and will be for ages, try and stay positive and remember when u hold that baby of yours all the tears u cry will be of happiness!!!!xx

 

[bootyb]

Like everyone has said hun ur not being selfish... pregnacy causes our hormones to be all over the place. Trust me i know how you are feeling.... it brings on alot of stress especially if uve got other worries like money nd relationships wit OH, family, friends etc. nd sometimes other whu havent been in similar circumstances dont really understand. Have told your midwife how you feel? or GP they will be able to give u advce on how your feel nd how to deal with it, venting out is always good i have learnt that over time, but u also need to right persons whu can help. Esp if its affecting your everyday life. Im not saying there is something wrong, but i have personal experience wit mental health even b4 i got pregnant as i suffer frm BPD nd get depresssed sometimes. But jes talking helps sometimes even to strangers. Things do get better hun nd you may feel alone but there are people here who want to help you.... nd like everyone has said you have that lil man to look forward to and enjoy his unconditional love. Hope nd Wish for the best for you hun PM if u wana chat/rant anything. *HUGS*