I dont know what to do

[SophiasMummy]

Ok so FOB has been ignoring me and refusing to see LO for 4 months now, since we had an argument and I wrote on my fb that hes the worst dad in the world and doesnt deserve to be a dad etc. It was a challenge to get him to see her before anyway he was always canceling. So anyway im feeling bad as if its my fault he wont see her and was thinking maybe I should try letting him have her for a few hours by himself or even with his gf there (eventhough I hate her) but firstly my LO barely knows him she only seen him like 15 times in her life. Secondly he lives an hour away and I dont want him taking her on any transport anywhere incase something happens let alone an hour away from me, and lastly he has never ever changed her nappy, fed her or clothed her etc.

I just dont know what to do I really feel like its my fault, but im not apoligizing for telling the truth. Im desperate for him to see her but really wanna be able to trust him with her before he has her alone and he wont come to see her with me here or even talk to me about seeing her, uurgh I dont know wat to do?? Should I feel bad?? Should I apologize for telling the truth?? Or should I just give up and leave him to it???

 

[Paton]

Horrible as it sounds, if he wanted to see her that badly then nothing you could have said would stop him... similarly if he doesn't want to see her then all the trying in the world isn't going to make him be a better father and regulalry see her.

Maybe you could open the communication then leave it up to him?.. so just tell him that you are happy for him to see her and have a relationship with your daughter and will be helpful in trying to make this happen.. then the ball is in his court... if he wants to see her he can make contact and ask for it.

If not then there is very little you can do about it, but at least you will be able to tell your daughter that it was always his decision and you never deliberately stopped the contact. It's very sad if he doesn't make the effort but you will have done all you can.

xx

 

[SophiasMummy]

Unfortuniatly ive already done that, his sisters come to see her all the time and he always makes excuses not to come x

 

[teal]

Aww hun

I agree that if he wanted to see her then he would and he wouldn't let whatever you've said stop him If you've offered to let him be involved and he's just finding excuses then you've done all you can do xx

 

[Laura2919]

You dont really have anything to feel guilty about, like you said he didnt really see her that much before opting to cancel on you most of the time, so really if he wanted to see her he would and nothing you say would stop him.

 

[jessrabbit]

You just lashed out because he has been such a let down and if he cant see why you did that he is a typical FOB dick head.

Like everyone else has said he would have seen her if he wanted to and seems to be using what you said as an excuse not to.

By not seeing LO he is proving you right, when he should be doing what he can to prove you wrong.

FOBS xx

 

[SophiasMummy]

Thanks girls, this was a bit of a midnight rant last nite to help get it all off my mind so I could sleep, thinking about it more today, I dont know why I cant just let it go and stop driving myself nuts over it, I think its just because he refuses to talk at all and im the kind of person that hates being ignored lmao I dont wanna give up till he answers me even if he just says to f off and leave him alone lmao x

I think I will just continue to pester him until he talks and still gota go to csa about money aswell lol, I have no doubt he will have something to say when he finds out im gunna make him start paying for his daughter, stupid deadbeat sperm doner

 

[jessrabbit]

Keep pestering him, at least you can then say you did everything you could xx