I dunno what to do.........

[sweetlullaby]

It hurts though that they say they care etc and want to be involved but dont do anything about it etc. Its all talk and no action with them!

SO true

I know its disgraceful I have a FOB that came to my house with a fiver teddy from tesco's and held him for a few seconds snapped some pictures and left then few days later demands all stupid things about access etc. It really hurts me the fact that he treats my son like some sort of possession of his. And yet at the same time wont do anything for him and wants a dna test to prove he's the father and threatens me. It just shows to me that he isnt thinking one bit about Matthew its just all about him and what he wants! Sorry mini rant there just really angers me lol

 

[lou_w34]

It hurts though that they say they care etc and want to be involved but dont do anything about it etc. Its all talk and no action with them!

SO true

I know its disgraceful I have a FOB that came to my house with a fiver teddy from tesco's and held him for a few seconds snapped some pictures and left then few days later demands all stupid things about access etc. It really hurts me the fact that he treats my son like some sort of possession of his. And yet at the same time wont do anything for him and wants a dna test to prove he's the father and threatens me. It just shows to me that he isnt thinking one bit about Matthew its just all about him and what he wants! Sorry mini rant there just really angers me lol

Tossers... the lot of em...

 

[louise85]

Thanx girls

Feeling slightly better today, although still pissed off!! I was just starting to feel better when he decides to text me saying he wanted to be involved and now its like I'm going over it all again!!

As far as I know he is working for the same company just abroad for a while. He says that I'm expecting him to work miracles!!!

I don't think he does realise he's going to be a father, he's also deleted and blocked me on fb and he's deleted our only mutual friend (who is more of a friend of his than mine) which makes me wonder if hes making the whole thing up!!

Obviously noone I know can see his wall so I'm not gonna know if he's gone or not, and noones mentioned it on his fb so far, just a thought, I dunno

I agree its completely his loss, and yep all those smiles and giggles will be for ME!!!!

xxx

 

[teal]

I hate that just when we feel ok and are doing well they get in touch.

You're right - it will be his loss!

 

[louise85]

I know, I was just beginning to, well not forget about him but getting used to it if you know what I mean!! Grrrrrrrr...If your gonna say something make sure you mean it, he gets me soooooo mad!!!!

xx

 

[teal]

I know - it's frustrating. My ex has been giving me hassle lately. He hasn't asked once about my baby. He hasn't even asked when I'm due. Yet he sent an email saying he is going to be at the birth because he has a right to be
I told him I would email him after I have the baby, if he wanted, but he said he didn't want to know.
I hate that he's trying to throw up his so called rights when he doesn't want to know about the baby. I just feel confused like he's messing with my head.

 

[louise85]

I remember reading about your email, I wondered what had happened with that!!

They are such dicks, do they know how pathetic their gonna look a few years down the line when their children ask where they where??!! I even said to my FOB last night, I hope you can explain your decision when their older.

Everything I say to him he says I'm trying to make him feel guilty....well he should be!!!

xx

 

[rewizz]

Mine hasn't been in touch for ages and it's great ..... not sure how it will all be when bub is here who knows .. but i already resent him for leaving me to deal with everything so far on my own financial and other wise ..
Personally i think it's best when they are not around .. cause u do not have to ask thier permission or oppinion on anything ...
I WOULD SAY TO HIM U MADE UR CHOICE FINE .... C YA!!!!!!
Most women will tell even when in a relationship it's down to the omen to do most things anyway .. get him to set a standing order before he goes even if it's only £30.00 wk.. and get intouch with csa they will make sure the difference is paid later ..
Not sure where abouts in brum u are but i live nr to drayton mannor park and zooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!
so if ever ur at a loose end just pm me .. and we can rant together
Rach .. xx