hello,
I just wanted to ask some advice from some of you ladies out there. I'm starting to feel like such a bad mother these days - i just don't know what to do with my baby!
My baby boy was 11 weeks yesterday (born 3 weeks early) and he has been very colicy since birth, we seem to have got that a little better, cow & gate comfort really helps. My baby boy just seems to be miserable all the time, he doesn't enjoy cuddles, cries and screams a lot, seems bored but as yet doesn't have the skills do anything. I have a swing which seems to calm him although as yet shows very little interest in the mobile. He just does not seem to be interested in anything. It just makes me so sad that it seems he doesn't even really love mummy or daddy, there's hardly any response from him towards us, in fact he seems to be happier when other people are around him.
I try desperately to get his attention and play with him but nothing seems to help - I am now starting to think could there be something wrong with him mentally?? He is growing physically very well, he has started to smile on those rare occasions (normally for strangers!) but in general he appears totally miserable. I know his poor little tummy does stress him out and give him pain but now I think I can tell the difference between plain grumpy and colic.
Whats really worrying me is that it is starting to make me resent him slightly, of course I love him dearly and the moments he rewards us with a smile makes it all worth while but in the middle of the night for his feed just doesn't help when he is screaming and kicking, I am just so tired of him it feels. We just can' seem to get his sleeping pattern right either, he has his feed at about 8pm but only gets to sleep at gone 10pm so he is ready for another feed before midnight but the poor thing is often so tired he is fast asleep so I won't wake him only to be woken at 2.30am after going to bed at 1!
I just don't know what to do for the best with him.
I just wanted to ask some advice from some of you ladies out there. I'm starting to feel like such a bad mother these days - i just don't know what to do with my baby!
My baby boy was 11 weeks yesterday (born 3 weeks early) and he has been very colicy since birth, we seem to have got that a little better, cow & gate comfort really helps. My baby boy just seems to be miserable all the time, he doesn't enjoy cuddles, cries and screams a lot, seems bored but as yet doesn't have the skills do anything. I have a swing which seems to calm him although as yet shows very little interest in the mobile. He just does not seem to be interested in anything. It just makes me so sad that it seems he doesn't even really love mummy or daddy, there's hardly any response from him towards us, in fact he seems to be happier when other people are around him.
I try desperately to get his attention and play with him but nothing seems to help - I am now starting to think could there be something wrong with him mentally?? He is growing physically very well, he has started to smile on those rare occasions (normally for strangers!) but in general he appears totally miserable. I know his poor little tummy does stress him out and give him pain but now I think I can tell the difference between plain grumpy and colic.
Whats really worrying me is that it is starting to make me resent him slightly, of course I love him dearly and the moments he rewards us with a smile makes it all worth while but in the middle of the night for his feed just doesn't help when he is screaming and kicking, I am just so tired of him it feels. We just can' seem to get his sleeping pattern right either, he has his feed at about 8pm but only gets to sleep at gone 10pm so he is ready for another feed before midnight but the poor thing is often so tired he is fast asleep so I won't wake him only to be woken at 2.30am after going to bed at 1!
I just don't know what to do for the best with him.