I feel like the only one??

[MissRhead]

I have alot of friends who have babys, however none are single, but when I look at like you ladies on here you all seem so strong! I try and put on a frount to everyone that I'm fine and I'm happier single. But really I find it such a struggle, I love looking after my son but sometimes I just feel like it's a struggle to get through the day, It can be sometimes weeks that I don't have any real interaction with adults, I started college which I think has helped but it's just 3 hours a week then I'm back to being stuck looking at the same 4 Walls. I'm not a confident person so i don't feel I can just go out and start talking to Random people! I just feel totaly on my own sometimes and tbh it's really scary! I don't know why I wrote this really but does anyone eles feel like this or am I the only one? xx

 

[laura1991]

I know how you feel! I put on such a front! I'm at college full time but I only speak to a few people because I have no confidence at all! Its so hard! I don't really have anyone who understands either!

 

[Surreal]

My social outlets consist of my family, and my co-workers -- and I'm on maternity leave right now, so it's just my family! Your not the only one, I promise. Social bug, I am not.

 

[Becyboo__x]

I am the same .. I dont even want to go to college as im so nervous about meeting new people and everything sad i know but iv always have confidence issues since iv had mason iv got abit of courage up and have changed but i still struggle with it. I have 2 best friends that have kids .. all my friends deserted me when i got pregnant all went off to Uni far away or just totally dont care no more including my best friend iv known since i was little .. But the 2 friends i have now one has a 10 month old and the other has 14 month old and a week old baby .. so we all have simler things to talk about and everything.. BUT 1 isnt single shes engaged and the other is kind of with someone .. so i feel left out as im single, even though im only 19 i just feel i have no1 to talk to like they have a guy, i spose i miss the realtionship bit of life being home 24/7 when my sons asleep/napping im sat on my own bored or just going out my mind because lack of communication (sounds really sad and like im a loner lol)

But your not on your own so never think that there is a hell of alot of people who feel the same, to me i feel i need to meet more people and get a somewhat social life back or someone i can share my life with my son .. if that makes sense?

 

[shiawase]

You are not alone! The only people i talk to are liam and my family plus i moved about 2 hours away from all my friends i feel quite lonely at times and all my confidence has gone i just keep thinking i have nothing to talk about anymore because my life right now is basically looking after liam and im sure people will get bored of listening about him teething etc! Im starting college in september and im sooo nervous at the thought of meeting new people, hopefully it wont be too bad

 

[littlekitten8]

We all have our bad days. I work full time so I have interaction with my work colleagues but most of my friends live miles away and so when I am home the only social interaction I have is with my family. If I had to be at home I would find it so much harder. Please don't feel like you're alone with this x

 

[MissRhead]

Thanks girls. Sorry to hear that some of you are feeling the same. I'm feeling abit better Me and kam have come to stay with my mum and dad for abit it's been good to get away from the same stuff everyday. I hope your all feeling ok xxx

 

[littlekitten8]

Thats good. My parents and sister are away in Australia for 5 weeks so its a bit lonely here x

 

[teal]

You're definitely not alone. I have my bad days too. Sending you hugs xx

 

[Buggie.]

I can definitely relate!

 

[xxfluffyxx]

im crying reading this,im the very same...i dont know what to do! i feel so trapped and bullied by my ex and his family,I dont even goto my local shops anymore,or for a walk with the pram!!! its like i barely exist.like you i am shy too! im beginning to think that no guy will ever want me because i have a baby,and the world just carries on!! you are not alone!! just remember you have that beautiful baby lookin up to you! thats what keeps me going! xhugsx

 

[littlekitten8]

fluffy you will find someone hun. My sister was a single mum for about a year and now she is with the most amazing guy and they are thinking about getting married and have a son of their own. Having a baby doesn't mean we are totally off the market x

 

[xxfluffyxx]

fluffy you will find someone hun. My sister was a single mum for about a year and now she is with the most amazing guy and they are thinking about getting married and have a son of their own. Having a baby doesn't mean we are totally off the market x

i hope your right! im going thru a really hard time at the moment and dont know what to do! id never ever change my lil boy but sometimes feel my life is over! while all his daddy does is party!

 

[angelpkj]

fluffy you will find someone hun. My sister was a single mum for about a year and now she is with the most amazing guy and they are thinking about getting married and have a son of their own. Having a baby doesn't mean we are totally off the market x

i hope your right! im going thru a really hard time at the moment and dont know what to do! id never ever change my lil boy but sometimes feel my life is over! while all his daddy does is party!

ditto
FOB the same
goes out fri-sun every weekend and has done since i met him,when we was together i spent every weekend alone in our house fri till sunday when hed come back from wherever or hed bring people back to ours for partys so supportive ha!

 

[purpledahlia]

I can relate too, Im lucky to have a lot of good friends, some with kids and some without, and my family, But i definately have my down days. I hate that all the FOB's just get to do what they want, spend money that should help raise their children. We didnt create babies on our own!

 

[Becyboo__x]

fluffy you will find someone hun. My sister was a single mum for about a year and now she is with the most amazing guy and they are thinking about getting married and have a son of their own. Having a baby doesn't mean we are totally off the market x

i hope your right! im going thru a really hard time at the moment and dont know what to do! id never ever change my lil boy but sometimes feel my life is over! while all his daddy does is party!

You really arent alone hun.. im the same i barely do anything now but id rather spend my time with my son.. im lucky to have a few other mummy friends i can meet with and well take them play areas and stuff.. but other then that im always at home dont have a social life or anything, and FOB hasnt even got in touch with me yet about sorting contact with his son :\ all he used to do was drink him self stupid! .. :\ iv had no luck with guys either everyone tells me "youll find someone" .. and i just cant see it happening last guy i was with brought me a pandora braclet for christmas.. and he told me not long after he didnt want a girlfriend? so we ended and hes with someone else now makes me think there something wrong with me

If you ever need a chat dont be a stranger im a nice person

xx

 

[DragoPanda]

I am alone all the time every day, I don't even have my family around me because I am abroad. I resigned from my job to go home so that I would at least have my mom and dad around me to ease the loneliness and to help and support me. I have one friend I am able to talk to regularly about baby stuff because she is pregnant as well but she is also back home. She will be the only person I will have to talk to apart from my parents. Not even my sister will be around because she works abroad too I am not shy but I have been away from home for a long time and have nothing in common with people I used to hang out and party with. It will be interesting to see what happens when I return. I hope to make at least 1 or 2 decent new friends while possibly working a part time job before baby is born.

 

[midwestbelle]

im crying reading this,im the very same...i dont know what to do! i feel so trapped and bullied by my ex and his family,I dont even goto my local shops anymore,or for a walk with the pram!!! its like i barely exist.like you i am shy too! im beginning to think that no guy will ever want me because i have a baby,and the world just carries on!! you are not alone!! just remember you have that beautiful baby lookin up to you! thats what keeps me going! xhugsx

i am exactly the same.

 

[mumtofour81]

Hey girls

time to feel sorry for those in relationships, come on think positive, we get to put our children to bed and do what the hell we want to without having to think about anybody else, if we're too tired for sex it don't matter coz we're single and if we're a lil horney lets just pop to ann summers and grab a toy because lets be honest, most men are poop in bed anyway lol. We get to watch on TV what we want when we want, and on that odd occasion when we get babysitters and are finally allowed into town to run riot we don't have to care about being silly and getting told off by the OH coz we aint got one, we only have to answer to ourself. Oh yeah and even better than all that, we dont have to share as many cuddles and stuff from our children to their other parent, we get the cuddles all to ourselfs and occasionly the other parent may get a lil cuddle lol

 

[karmah]

hello ladies. i am single, alone and pregnant. most of the time it doesn't bother me, my ex-oh was a real db (douchebag) and we are really better off without him. but today it just sucks ass completely. i have finally figured out names i love and love and love but i have no one to share them with. i am fortunate and have a family that loves and supports me but they are all so far away. my friends are good but busy with their lives; school, work, children. i'm just wide awake sitting on my pity pot. wishing i had a beer to cry into! i haven't drank and do not want to get drunk...i just want one, nice cold beer.