I feel so guilty

[mernie]

Today has been pretty bad with her colic and what not and I know its not her fault but I keep feeling so irritated with her. Monday was DH's first day back at work and it wasn't that bad he went today and I had hell til he came home for lunch at 11 he left around 1230 to go back and I had hell again. Then when he came home at 230 for the day I had just gotten her calmed down and put her into her bouncer and he picked her up which caused her to of course scream and cry her little heart out. He usually doesn't mind doing stuff with her but today he's pretty much been asleep since about an hour after he got home. Which WAS fine...we napped with him but now he refuses to get up and I just feel so chained to Brianna right now and I'm soooo irritated....i hate to feel that way because I know its not her fault but I just can't help it. I don't know whats wrong with me all of a sudden she slept great last night and I got more sleep than I have in the past few nights so I thought that i'd be in a better mood but i was sooo wrong. Sorry for the rant but I just feel like I'm at the end of my rope right now and not getting any help today really is just making it worse I dunno how I'm gonna deal with this for the rest of the day

 

[ryder]

aww... I know the first couple months are hard!

 

[leedsforever]

hun I remember the days like they were yesterday... dont feel bad...!! It does get easier... your doing a fab job.. colic is horribe

 

[rach321]

Know just how you feel - the first 10 weeks with my LO were hell! Just walk away when you feel you need to - 5mins of crying is not going to hurt. Just remember it is just a phase and it will get better. You said she sleeps pretty well at night - so focus on the positive at least then if you have a crap day then you know that the night will be better. The thing that kept me sane was going out for a walk every day - the fresh air does them good and besides the crying doesn't sound as loud outside! If the weather is crap then go to the a shopping centre where everything is inside - the motion of walking in the pram usually helps colicky babies to settle. Get one of those baby carriers that you wear on your front or a sling - your LO is still very small so it will comforting to be close to you and at least then you will have 2 hands free to get on with things - I decorated our christmas tree last year with my LO in a sling since he refused to settle anywhere else!
Have you got a local baby group or drop-in centre near you where you can get out of the house and chat with other mums - that always helps - at least then you know you're not the only one with a challenging baby! Notice I use the word challenging and not difficult or fussy!!
You didn't mention if you were nursing or bottle feeding - if you are nursing get someone to check your latch because a bad latch can lead to much gassiness and fussiness in babies. If you are formula feeding then maybe look at trying a different formula - introduce it gradually though and see if things improve. Colic drops can sometimes help - didn't do a thing for my LO but you might be lucky!
Best advice I can give is try and nap whenever you can - the housework can wait! If you are well rested you will be able to deal with it a lot better - do you have family nearby that could take her for an hour to give you a break ?
Sorry - I've written way too much but just wanted to share my experience and let you know that it really does get better! Hugs xx

 

[Serene123]

Try singing. I know she might not be listening because she's upset, but it'll keep you calm x

 

[Gwizz]

Want to send you a big hug my OH goes back to work next week and I'm so dreading it - all day on my own, especially when he settles better with his dad than me. Your not on your own

xxxxx

 

[sabby52]

Awwww hun the first few weeks can be pretty bad, but it does get better.