I gave birth, how can he not be a grandchild!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Ersurgeongirl]

i know how some people can be materialistic, maybe your MIL is like that? you know, since there is no physical baby there, there never was a baby, kind of thinking? she does sound rotten

well if it makes it any better, if i was your MIL i'd say your darling child was the first grandkid.

 

[leeanne]

 

[Ann-Marie]

That's really sad hun I'm sure they do see him as their first, but as said in a previous post, it's too painfull to go into details...

 

[jacky24]

Morning girls, well im back after having a horrible lung infection actually booked off until monday but i can't stay in bed.

Me and DH spoke to MIL and FIL last night, ofcourse MIL denies ever saying that gavin is their first grandchild, but FIL looked shaken by us telling them that they hurt is deeply by the comments and say gavin is their first grandchild.

They asured us that they know CJ was the first grandchild and he had the family name as Gavin does not have the family name.

So we will see how it all works out in the end.

Thanks all for your support, i have been hurt for so long now and i feel tons beter after getting it all out in the open now with the INLAWS.

Thanks girls

 

[Chocoholic]

I sincerely feel so sorry for what you went through! I can't hold back my tears right now, I cannot imagine how you must feel!

Regarding your inlaws, I am glad you had the conversation and got it off your chest. No matter what they say, you stood up for CJ and the rest doesn't matter.

I agree with everyone else though, it's easier to pretend in front of other people than to explain the details.

I hope things go better from now on.

 

[curiosa]

jacky, I only read this now! How horrible! You've been through a really painful experience and the inlaws have just added to it. I am glad that you have been able to speak to them openly and that your husband has spoken out with you too. Even though MIL denied it I'm sure she's understood how much she's hurt you and hopefully they will never do it again.

... or else I'll jsut go there and slap 'em myself! (might help my AF mood )

 

[Uvlollypop]

ive had an issue like this with this pregnancy 'is it your first' i quite often say yes. its easier then answering questions...maybe its the same for them?

it dont make it any nicer to hear/say but as you know its so hard to go over things over and over

big cuddles

 

[shmoo75]

I'm glad you and your OH had a little chat with your MIL & FIL fingers crossed that they think b4 engaging their mouths in future. Hope you get a soon

 

[jacky24]

Just an Update.

Things are going very well now, me and OH have been spending some more time now with godchild and SIL as her and BIL are having marraige problems again.

But i am settling in on being a godmother now and enjoying him.

MIL and FIL have also become more sensitive to what they say about there first stillborn grandchild and second living grandchild.

Thanks girls.

 

[curiosa]

jacky, I'm glad things are better now and that the ILs are more understanding and careful, and also that you can enjoy your godchild!
very happy for you!

 

[Lazy Leo]

SO glad that you have managed to clear the air a bit. I think face to face is far better than an email. It still doesn't excuse the second comment though. I hope things pick up for you xx