I got judged!! *pregnancy rant*

[Kylily]

Hun I think you should be sat there with a great smug look on your face! You are doing great and like others said you will be the one who comes out on top! These people will get a he'll of a shock when they hit the real world!

 

[Ilovehim89]

I know how you feel in a way. I have two babies (toddlers 2 & 1) and am now 28 weeks with my 3rd. I am young, 22. But at the time of getting pregnant and having my other two, I was with my husband. I was at the mall last week and two women were giving me the stink eye for no reason! I was like WHAT THE HECK??? My friend even noticed. I was half tempted to ask if they had a problem lol

 

[lanaloo]

I'm so sorry about this because I know EXACTLY how you feel, I was at the end of my second year when I found out....about february so by the time I started getting bigger lectures had finished and uni was over until this term. I feel so worried about going in incase anybody from my course sees me.

Just think to yourself that you're doing WAY better than them (this is what I always think when I see someone looking at me) how many of them would of returned and managed to carry on through Uni being pregnant/ with a baby? Anyway in my opinion my baby is wayyyyyyyyyyyyy more important than "normal" uni life - I'm getting my degree for her not to have the time of my life drinking lol

xxxx

 

[shellie]

I think most of the advice so far is right. Take no notice of them, they are being immature. You will be in a better position than them when you finish the course as you will be leaving and settling into your life, with your family, in your house. They on the other hand still have to set their life up and have their kids. You are doing the right thing by you, your child, and your family so keep up the good work. xxx

 

[ahcigar1]

Wow I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. What is the big deal anyway, from the sounds of it they have never seen a pregnant woman before. And its university your an adult so what the heck is the big deal. Don't let them get to you, they obviously aren't worth the effort. Hope your class goes well.

 

[xBabyGoose]

Thank you for all the replies!

It wasnt the fact that they were staring - everyone has a thing for staring at pregnant women, and I kind of expected it. It's how they were looking at me, and whoever wrote 'stink eye' said it correctly! There was just no need for it!

Also, some of these people I am quite friendly with - I had none of them saying congratulations or asking me about the situation, they all just kinda kept out of the way.

However, after my rant I felt so much better. I actually cant wait to start lectures next week (even if i struggle to waddle in!), because I am very proud of what I have achieved here, and not alot of people would stick with it, it will make me a stronger person altogether and thats what I want to improve on in life.

Thank you again and good luck with your pregnancies whatever the circumstance, coz I sure as hell will be enjoying the rest of mine! xx

 

[tootsweets]

^^ good good! Us pregnant students need to support each other!

 

[Baby France]

Some people are just idiots. They are too concerned about how a pregnancy would affect them right now than look at how happy and amazing you are!

If it is any consolation (which it probably won't be) but one day when they decide to start their own family, they may look back and feel ashamed.

I was never judgemental at others who were pregnant, but I wasn't very interested either.

 

[Heather212]

Wow how old are these people? they sound like elementary school kids. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

I don't understand how they found the nerve to laugh and point at a random classmate they don't know. Were you close to them before? If you were, then I guess it's time to find new friends.

 

[xBabyGoose]

Most of them I'd never spoke to (as I said, there was about 200 people in the room!) But a good handful of them I speak to quite regularly in lectures x

 

[Maman]

you know id ask the lecturer to let you have a word with your classmates at the beginnign of the next lecture, and id just stand up and say that youre happy to be pregnant, and not here to be judged so anyone who has a problem with it shoudl just leave the issues at the door, as its their hang up not yours.

 

[jenny82]

Making an announcement at the start of lectures would just make things worse imo. Most of the students are really immature and in a class of 200 people, it would just single you out more - and they will giggle...especially the fellas Let them think what they want - they're just morons anyway.

When I graduated in July there, most of my lectures came up to congratulate me (from previous years too, not just this one) and knew me by name, and coo-ed over LO. I had a much better relationship with them as a mother-student than as a regular-student. I also had better marks as a mother-student too. Just you think about how great you'll do as a result of your new baby

 

[tlh97990]

i am doing much better in school this semester than i have in the past! i am about a month ahead of everyone else in my classes because i concentrate solely on school not partying with friends