I guess i belong in here now.... :(

[ladyjayne]

WOW, I cant believe its actually come to this. My Hubby and I were having problems argueing lots and stuff but I never ever thought he'd leave. But he has, its been a week since he left me and I'm devastated.
Long story short he says he doesnt know how he feels about me anymore, doesnt know if he loves me, or wants to be with me. He left and doesnt want to try and make us work, he says he's tried for 15 months. ( thats how old our boy is :'( )
He comes over every other night to put our boy to bed and it kills me... although hes going away with the army for 3 weeks on sunday so it'll be good to have a break.
He keeps saying that he doesnt want to string me along, because he doesnt know what he wants and wants to be 100% sure before we try to make it work. Which is fair enough. I guess. But then he says that he could still change his mind but doesnt know if it'll be a week a month a year or ten years.
MY heart tells me to wait for him, in the desparate hope that he'll realise were good together, on the other hand my head tells me he's already walked away and i cant wait around forever.
I never wanted any of this, wee met married and had a baby, i was so stupid to believe that i'd found it all at 21. Now im a mess and the only thing that keeps me gonig is knowing i have to take care of my little boy.
I feel like my world has crumbled on top of me.
Thanks for reading, i just wanted to vent and share my story.

 

[lal]

Don't wait for him...if it is meant to be it will happen, but for now you need to get some space (emotionally at least). My therapist had to come to a compromise with me, because I just couldn't let go of the possibility that someday my baby's father might not be so awful - we agreed that if he met certain conditions, and then only, could I give him another chance. In the meantime it helps me "move on", knowing he is nowhere near those conditions and that I don't want him the way he is now. It sounds like your husband is being very indecisive, which comes down to keeping you around and still doing what he wants. I'd recommend laying it out to him, saying "if you do decide that you want to come back, it would take XXX and XXX for me to trust you again. Until you can do that, we will only talk about things related to the baby." Gotta take some sort of control of the situation, since we're stuck seeing these guys whenever they feel like it on account of having their children.

 

[jen1604]

I'm sorry sweetie,but we're all here for you