Ju_bubbs
Proud single Mummy of 5!
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Just having a little vent! I moved house just before xmas, so had to change to the midwife in my new area.. theres only one that covers the whole area, so I had no choice and presumably can't change! Anyway, just been to meet her for my 34wk appt... told her that my previous midwife had booked me for a home water birth etc and filled her in on how my previous 4 labours have got progressively earlier and faster... by fast, I mean 5 hours, 3 hours, 20 minutes, and 15 minutes. And by earlier I mean... 40wks, 39 wks, 38wks and 37wks..
Now maybe I'm over reacting, hormones and what not.. but I really really didn't like the way she was! My last midwife was MORE than happy to 'OK' my homebirth from 36 weeks, mainly because it's expected to be in the 36th week, and to last around 15 minutes at most from the first contraction and the hospital is quite a distance! depending on the time of day, it can take over an hour to get there, even at night, with no traffic its a 25 minute journey. (I just made it on baby NO3, leaving home at 3am, by flying through speed cameras at 100mph, and ignoring red lights, I got to the hospital with enough time to spare to get my knickers round my ankles LOL!
So anyway this new midwife... after being told all of this asks if my partner is at home with me, so I tell her I'm single... she gasped, and said you MUST have another adult staying with you if you're going to have a home birth, then goes on to say that I absolutely can not use my pool unless I have a liner (which I have got, but dont see why I NEED one!)
Then carries on with 'well if you go into labour before 37 weeks you'll have to go into hospital anyway'.. so I reminded her of the reasoning behind my old midwife being happy with 36wks at home.. and she went on about having to consider the safety of me and the baby... at this point I got quite wound up and said something like...'YES! THAT is the exact reason I WILL be birthing at home, even at 36 weeks, I'm no expert but I am fairly certain that it is safer for my baby, my other children, and myself for me to labour in a planned, prepared environment at home, with paramedics/midwife on route to assist me, than for me to bundle all my children into my car, then give birth in said car, half way to hospital! And that's only assuming that someone would be able to get here before I gave birth, to drive me!
Then she decided to tell me that I would HAVE to phone an ambulance, so I asked her if there is room for a labouring woman AND 4 children in an ambulance! Just to be awkward! She said no... so I said do you suggest I leave my children at home alone then or are you going to pay for a live in nanny for me!? GRRRRRR
Oh, she didn't quite know what to say when she tried telling me that there is no way that I will be able to deliver a baby myself... while coping with labour... I greatly enjoyed telling her that the midwife didn't make it to my last labour, and I delivered Imogen in my birth pool, at home.. myself! HA!
STUPID BITCH!
Ahhhh thats better!
Now maybe I'm over reacting, hormones and what not.. but I really really didn't like the way she was! My last midwife was MORE than happy to 'OK' my homebirth from 36 weeks, mainly because it's expected to be in the 36th week, and to last around 15 minutes at most from the first contraction and the hospital is quite a distance! depending on the time of day, it can take over an hour to get there, even at night, with no traffic its a 25 minute journey. (I just made it on baby NO3, leaving home at 3am, by flying through speed cameras at 100mph, and ignoring red lights, I got to the hospital with enough time to spare to get my knickers round my ankles LOL!
So anyway this new midwife... after being told all of this asks if my partner is at home with me, so I tell her I'm single... she gasped, and said you MUST have another adult staying with you if you're going to have a home birth, then goes on to say that I absolutely can not use my pool unless I have a liner (which I have got, but dont see why I NEED one!)
Then carries on with 'well if you go into labour before 37 weeks you'll have to go into hospital anyway'.. so I reminded her of the reasoning behind my old midwife being happy with 36wks at home.. and she went on about having to consider the safety of me and the baby... at this point I got quite wound up and said something like...'YES! THAT is the exact reason I WILL be birthing at home, even at 36 weeks, I'm no expert but I am fairly certain that it is safer for my baby, my other children, and myself for me to labour in a planned, prepared environment at home, with paramedics/midwife on route to assist me, than for me to bundle all my children into my car, then give birth in said car, half way to hospital! And that's only assuming that someone would be able to get here before I gave birth, to drive me!
Then she decided to tell me that I would HAVE to phone an ambulance, so I asked her if there is room for a labouring woman AND 4 children in an ambulance! Just to be awkward! She said no... so I said do you suggest I leave my children at home alone then or are you going to pay for a live in nanny for me!? GRRRRRR
Oh, she didn't quite know what to say when she tried telling me that there is no way that I will be able to deliver a baby myself... while coping with labour... I greatly enjoyed telling her that the midwife didn't make it to my last labour, and I delivered Imogen in my birth pool, at home.. myself! HA!
STUPID BITCH!
Ahhhh thats better!