I have a middle name problem already

[Barbles]

So.......

On my OH's side there are no boy grandchildren. If ours is a boy it will be the first to carry on the family name.
So if it is OH wants to give him the middle name Roy which was his grandads name, his dads middle name and his brothers middle name. I have no problem with this whatsoever.
My only reservation is that it is his brothers middle name. Him and his girlfriend are currently TTC and I was worried they may feel we have stolen their middle name especially if they have a boy as I know they will choose Roy for their middle name also, its a given that this name is going to be used somewhere.

What do you think?

There is a chance they may never have a boy and I know it will mean a lot to the family to have the first boy with the name Roy. Hell we may even have another girl.

I know its early to be thinking about it but I was going to ask them at Xmas and wanted opinions on whether its rude or not?

 

[windswept]

It's not rude at all - my brother and I have a similar situation where we share a favourite name, and we have decided that whoever has a girl first can call her the name.

I think the sentiment is lovely, and if I were your inlaws, I wouldn't be feeling hard done by, or indeed, that I couldn't give my own child that name - after all, it is a middle name and not a first name. Plus, you both have reasons for choosing that name - it's not a random name you are 'stealing'!

 

[fairy_gem]

As its a middle name and a family name i think its perfectly fine.

x

 

[MommyMika]

I think it would be fine, but it doesn't hurt to ask just so there's no hard feelings Also, since it's a middle name, I don't see the harm in 2 boys in the family having the same middle name !

 

[kiwimama]

I would think it's fine, they would probably expect it!

 

[RubyRainbows]

Personally i think the brother should get the honor of carrying on the name Roy, since it's his middle name....

 

[Tegans Mama]

I think if you have the first boy in the family, you should carry the name on, because it is a 'family' name and not just the middle name of the brother.

 

[VintageLace]

I think its fine but I would talk to them about using it anyway.