I just keep walking into troubled situations!

[dustbunny]

I have managed to get myself into another situation! I really don't know how it all happens. I know I post a lot in this forum too so I am sorry for another thread. My and my ex broke up weeks and weeks ago, heading towards the 2 month mark and aside from one drunken text he has never said he misses me or anything. A couple weeks ago I told my mum, in a weekend of feeling bleh, that I did miss him. She decided to text him this and suggested things to do. He came over a couple days ago and we went for lunch and it was OK, nice to chat but then I am chatty with most people. I told him I thought this was all too late but he invited me away next week for a couple days and in the moment I agreed to it. Now I am dreading it and I really don't want to go. In the days since I said yes I have remembered all the reasons why I ended it in the first place and I'm further annoyed he believes his recent actions are off his own back and his own ideas when they're not. Since the lunch he randomly text me saying what he missed most about sex [?!?!] and that the baby is definitely going to be a boy because a Chinese gender predictor told him.
I know there is not much I can do now and have stupidly brought this all on myself again but needed to rant, even if it is to open air.

 

[Laura2919]

If you think there is no future for you two then you need to tell him your not going. If all he misses about your relationship is sex then there isnt much of a relationship, in my opinion there is more to a relationship than just sex. Really your mum shouldnt have text him as this has stirred a lot up but I can see how she thought she was helping.

I'd just explain to him that the reasons you broke up originally are still there and you need to move on, not with him.

 

[dustbunny]

I think Ive left it a bit late to back out as I am meant to be going tomorrow... although I dont know when as he hasnt txt me that bit. I think I am actually beginning to hate myself :/

 

[Laura2919]

Its not too late to say your not going but I think maybe deep down you want to go and see how things are.

 

[emf81]

Its not too late to say your not going but I think maybe deep down you want to go and see how things are.

I agree, just remember at the min your hormones are going to be all over, I wouldn't make any rash decisions xx

 

[littlelinnies]

dont be so hard on yourself, its your hormones more than likely.. just text him and tell him it was all a big mistake and you've changed your mind, sure you could text him some excuse but then this will come up again, just tell him straight, say next time you want to hear off him you want it to be just about the baby, you and him are over. and leave it at that. if hes already texted you meantioning sex then more than likely he will expect sex while you are away with him..dont get yourself into more of a pickle

 

[dustbunny]

Thanks girls, I just spoke to him about it and yeah.... turns out the next few days he did expect stuff to happen and for us to come back as a couple with everything forgotten about. It just feels like Ive broken up with him twice now. He still says he is going to come down tomorrow anyway which I expressed I didn't want so I hope he doesn't show up. Early New Years Resolution, no more getting into tight spots! Thanks again!

 

[Scarletvixen]

Hope everything works out for you.
One thing i have learn is i should have walked away a year ago instedof this dragging out xx

 

[Laura2919]

Hope everything works out for you.
One thing i have learn is i should have walked away a year ago instedof this dragging out xx

You sound like me.. I only wish I had walked away ages ago.