I know hate Is a strong word....

[Bee26]

..but.... I hate hate hate hate him. Grrrrr. What a low life waster. I can't believe I loved him once. Idiot.
Sorry girlies, need to vent.

 

[KaeRit21]

vent away hun

, ive been venting to my mum about "mine". i hate the ground he walks on

xx

 

[tinkabells]

Go for it, im feeling like that today and i havent spoken to FOB for about 4 months!!! he dont even know she is here xxx

 

[Bee26]

Im actually a bit frightened, might sound daft, but after weeks of being really fair, giving him chances and making an effort ( I ended the relationship 4 weeks ago but really wanted him to be part of babys life) I have finally told him exactly what I think of him and what a total waste of space he is. He's pissed up again tonight and ringing me and texting me abuse and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a little bit scared he might do something to hurt me or baby in rage. He's been in prison before I knew him for GBH ( sounds like a right catch eh girls!) and although he's never hurt me I can't help but feel a bit edgy. X

 

[broodylocket]

im sure it will be ok though hun. men are strange creatures.

 

[lou_w34]

Awwww i wouldnt worry about that, my FOB sent me a suicidle text saying if i didnt get back with him he would kill himself, he sent it in the middle of the night, so i didnt get it till i woke up in the morning, and my first though was "i hope you did" i felt terrible afterwards, but he's such a awful, lying, cheating, uncaring wanker, and put me through hell, that i reasoned with myself it was ok to feel that way lol

 

[Bee26]

well after he finally got the message that I wouldn't get back with him he told me this morning he hoped me and the baby die. I gave him every chance and I think by hating me it makes it easier to deal with. He has said some really awful things but it only goes to confirm why I will now never let him near my child.

 

[lou_w34]

If i were told that, id deleat him of facebook, my phone, and change my number! Thats a awful thing to say! Personally id cut all contact now.

 

[Bee26]

that's exactly what I've done, no child if mine will be subjected to that emotional abuse. X

 

[McLovin]

I'm hating "mine" today too... woke up thinking I could do with a good rant and rave about what an arsehole he is! Selfish as it sounds... I wish mine would go away and want nothing to do with the baby

 

[edinsam]

Go for it, im feeling like that today and i havent spoken to FOB for about 4 months!!! he dont even know she is here xxx

aw tink did you take the decision in the end not to tell him?

I told mine and Im glad I did even though he never responded

I hate mines too so dont feel bad for ranting and raving either!

 

[suzanne108]

Vent all you like....hate is not a strong enough word for some of the FOBs on here.

If I was you I'd keep the texts in case you need them in future to throw back in his face. Or if he does something dodgy like go through courts...don't mean to worry you, this is the way my paranoid mind works!! I've kept all texts, facebook messages, letters just in case.

And McLovin...I'm the same. I think my life will be easier if FOB says he wants nothing to do with baby. But thats probably quite selfish of me and unfair on the child not to know its father! I just don't want him in my life. I haven't heard from him for 4 weeks now so maybe he has decided he wants nothing to do with us....we'll see.

 

[xxannxx]

In my opinion, even on a good day, hate isn't a strong enough word.
I've been through something similar, when me and ex split he would turn up banging door drunk, send threatening and abusive txts, in end i had to see solicitor. I did get solicitor to send warning letter saying that if didn't stop would be takign out restraining order which seemed to do trick. Now, 3 years later i STILL keep diary of all contact i have with him, and if he ever sends nasty txts, which occasionally he does if things don't go his way, i save them. He knows i do this and it drives him mad, which i think is another good reason to keep doing it.
I would say keep strong and def keep those txts just in case.

 

[Bee26]

thanks girls, it's just so stressful and I have been so so reasonable with him, never closing the door and even supporting him when he has felt low and useless. He chose going out on the piss over a meeting with me to discuss our baby and how we could do this the best possible way, so I told him he had blown it, no more chances. He had been begging me for weeks to let him prove himself and to give him a chance to show he wanted to be a father and support us. If he does that now then he will def let his child down when it's here and I won't allow it to feel that hurt. He has now become nasty and says no one will ever want me and that the reason my parents moved to France is because they didn't want me. It's just evil.

 

[KaeRit21]

bee26....urs sounds a lot like mine, although rather than send abuse mines just turns it back and makes it MY fault. but ive gave him every chance and at every turn hes said "oh ill make it up"...hes said it over and over again, yet never does, and then repeats it when he messes up all over again...ive supported "mine" through everything this year and he couldnt have cared if id had to walk home in the dark...as long as HE didnt have too. hes "promised" to be at mine tonight with money for LO's pram...im NOT holding my breath. i dont trust one single word that comes from him.
eventually lost the plot with him the other day and told him he needs to step back and open his eyes and stop acting like an immature 16yr little boy or he wasnt coming any where near me or baby and the response i got was "theres no need to threaten me"....it wasnt a threat. believe me. ive got enough on him to make sure he NEVER gets access, i dont need to threaten him. and he knows it

and mclovin...its not selfish. i wish that too. i dont even want this baby any where near him....ever. him./her dont need the unstability or the stress he brings, or the mind games and lies he likes to play and tell. i wish he'd disappear...completely...the only thing this baby has ever recieved from him is DNA.


xxx

 

[SweetNothings]

Awwww i wouldnt worry about that, my FOB sent me a suicidle text saying if i didnt get back with him he would kill himself, he sent it in the middle of the night, so i didnt get it till i woke up in the morning, and my first though was "i hope you did" i felt terrible afterwards, but he's such a awful, lying, cheating, uncaring wanker, and put me through hell, that i reasoned with myself it was ok to feel that way lol

haha..you know what? if he did ...it certainly wouldnt be your fault PLUS the torment he would put you through would be ended

 

[Bee26]

well he rang me last night, and after blaming me and saying he wasnt a bad person he then backtracked and said how much he loved me and that he wasninly trying to make me feel the hurt he feels. I told him that I will contact him when baby is born and then I will decide if he can have access if his lifestyle is suitable for a child to be in. His dads being really supportive of me and is disgusted by his sons behaviour. X

 

[SweetNothings]

well he rang me last night, and after blaming me and saying he wasnt a bad person he then backtracked and said how much he loved me and that he wasninly trying to make me feel the hurt he feels. I told him that I will contact him when baby is born and then I will decide if he can have access if his lifestyle is suitable for a child to be in. His dads being really supportive of me and is disgusted by his sons behaviour. X

You know you're in the right when the parent of your OH/Ex agrees with you. I think its so great that you have, at the very least, his father's support on the whole matter. Hopefully that will make your ex think harder and grow up. good luck hun