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So for those who don't know my story, I am currently on cycle 14, and 8 dpo today. My husband had a vasectomy reversal in October of 2021, however, he's active duty and went TDY just 3 weeks later. He returned in early February (this was last year) just a couple days before I was due to ovulate. So we have officially been trying ever since.
The reversal happened 7 years after the initial surgery. He was due to go in for a semen analysis that January, but of course he wasn't able to. Once he returned he kept putting it off. I believe it was partly because of the awkwardness and partly because he just didn't want to hear the possibility of something being "wrong" with him. Because he kept trying to tell me I could be the one with the issue.. that maybe I have a hormone imbalance or something. I have no reason to believe thats the case, but I'll come back to that.
Well, after several months, I finally got fed up that he wasn't getting it done, so I ended up buying an at home test in December, one that uses AI basically to give you your results and even gives you a live recording of the sperm. I mainly wanted to know if I was getting my hopes up for nothing, because up to that point, we had no idea if the reversal was even successful or not. It's of course no replacement for having an actual, qualified person evaluate the sample, but at least we finally have an idea of what we are working with.
The results came back with a score of 20 out of 90 on their scale, which indicates a low count. We don't have the exact numbers, but from watching the video, I can see he does have a small amount of healthy looking, normal moving sperm (as far as I can tell anyway), but most appear to be either non moving, swimming in place, or swimming in circles basically. So motility and quality aren't looking great either.
With all this in mind, it certainly explains why we've had such a difficult time conceiving this time around, and there's no reason for me to believe there's any major issues on my end. Infact, I had a well woman check up just after my husband's resersal and it went well. We've had 3 kids together before he got snipped, and my cycles are pretty regular.
My emotions are all over the place these days though and every passing day it just gets harder to hold out hope..but still, I can't help but wonder sometimes, IS there something wrong on my end too? Or is there anything I could do, watch out for, or address on my end that would help? Honestly it's probably just all in my head, I think it's just gotten to me.
I strongly believe that everything happens how and when it's meant to. I don't always understand why in the moment, but looking back I can see how everything has paved the way for where we are today, and even though we haven't concieved this time around yet, we've been very blessed and lucky with having been able to try all these cycles with as often as he flies out for missions, we somehow haven't missed an ovulation/fertile window yet. I just hope we do finally concieve before he eventually deploys or something..
I actually just purchased some male fertility supplements on Amazon. The hard part will be getting him to actually take them. He's very much been relaxed over this whole process, telling me to just let it happen naturally, (he doesn't even want to consider IUI for at least another year) but I on the other hand feel like I need to have control over something before I completely lose my mind!
Why does this have to be so hard
The reversal happened 7 years after the initial surgery. He was due to go in for a semen analysis that January, but of course he wasn't able to. Once he returned he kept putting it off. I believe it was partly because of the awkwardness and partly because he just didn't want to hear the possibility of something being "wrong" with him. Because he kept trying to tell me I could be the one with the issue.. that maybe I have a hormone imbalance or something. I have no reason to believe thats the case, but I'll come back to that.
Well, after several months, I finally got fed up that he wasn't getting it done, so I ended up buying an at home test in December, one that uses AI basically to give you your results and even gives you a live recording of the sperm. I mainly wanted to know if I was getting my hopes up for nothing, because up to that point, we had no idea if the reversal was even successful or not. It's of course no replacement for having an actual, qualified person evaluate the sample, but at least we finally have an idea of what we are working with.
The results came back with a score of 20 out of 90 on their scale, which indicates a low count. We don't have the exact numbers, but from watching the video, I can see he does have a small amount of healthy looking, normal moving sperm (as far as I can tell anyway), but most appear to be either non moving, swimming in place, or swimming in circles basically. So motility and quality aren't looking great either.
With all this in mind, it certainly explains why we've had such a difficult time conceiving this time around, and there's no reason for me to believe there's any major issues on my end. Infact, I had a well woman check up just after my husband's resersal and it went well. We've had 3 kids together before he got snipped, and my cycles are pretty regular.
My emotions are all over the place these days though and every passing day it just gets harder to hold out hope..but still, I can't help but wonder sometimes, IS there something wrong on my end too? Or is there anything I could do, watch out for, or address on my end that would help? Honestly it's probably just all in my head, I think it's just gotten to me.
I strongly believe that everything happens how and when it's meant to. I don't always understand why in the moment, but looking back I can see how everything has paved the way for where we are today, and even though we haven't concieved this time around yet, we've been very blessed and lucky with having been able to try all these cycles with as often as he flies out for missions, we somehow haven't missed an ovulation/fertile window yet. I just hope we do finally concieve before he eventually deploys or something..
I actually just purchased some male fertility supplements on Amazon. The hard part will be getting him to actually take them. He's very much been relaxed over this whole process, telling me to just let it happen naturally, (he doesn't even want to consider IUI for at least another year) but I on the other hand feel like I need to have control over something before I completely lose my mind!
Why does this have to be so hard
, I do understand how hard and frustrating it is to not have your husband completely on board willing to do whatever it takes, my husband is very similar sorry I dont Have much advice but am here to listen 
I am in a similar situation myself except I had a tubal and am considering Ivf but haven’t met anyone yet who has gone through this for advice. But we have 3 children also 13,8, youngest is 7
