I know she didn't mean it... but seriously?

Discussion in 'Miscarriage Support' started by TaraLynn, Nov 15, 2011.

  1. TaraLynn

    TaraLynn mama to Kiernan & 1 angel

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    I called my doctors office this morning to just let them know some pains I have still been having - wasn't sure if they were normal or not. The nurse on the phone (who is normally the nicest!) Kathy, was telling me with all my body had gone through and the mass of blood that I had lost its all normal and I could take a few cycles to get back on track and feel back to myself. I still tear up when I think of what she said next, "Your body had a lot of crap to get rid of" :cry: I know she didn't mean my baby was crap, but its all I heard. I instantly started to cry on the phone and she immediately apologized.

    Maybe this should be under "things not to say". You would think nurses and doctors who see this day in and day out would know better :nope:
     
  2. RebeccaLou87

    RebeccaLou87 TTC after a loss

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    Oh dear how insensitive of her! Im sure she didnt mean to upset you but people just don't think sometimes.

    Big hug xx
     
  3. scoobydrlp

    scoobydrlp Well-Known Member

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    People really should think before they speak. Of course she didn't mean it the way it sounded, but that doesn't excuse it. I'm sorry you had to hear it. :hugs: :hugs:
     
  4. amotherslove

    amotherslove MamaToLilyLucyAndLila<3

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    Wow... That's awful... People really need to be more gentle with us after all this...
     
  5. TaraLynn

    TaraLynn mama to Kiernan & 1 angel

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    I know - I still cannot believe she said it either.

    So girls - if you are still reading this I have some questions. It's been a little over a month now since I lost my baby... and I have had a normal AF cycle recently. It took a while but most of my pregnancy symptoms have left.

    However, I am still not feeling "right". I still have lots of cramping and lower back pain - it almost feels like I have af, but it ended over a week ago. Also I am EXTREMELY bloated and have upper back pain (under the back of my shoulder blade only on left side) with some dull pains between my ribs. The nurse said yesterday it could just take me a while to feel back to normal. Something just doesnt feel "right" about all this.

    My concern is they never kept checking my HcG until they went down to 0, they only checked to make sure it went down below 5. Could there still be some tissue left over? I feel like I would feel much better if I knew my levels were at 0. what are your thoughts?
     

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