I lost my child not my F(*&^% puppy!!!!!!

[jacky24]

Why do some people treat my situation like i have lost a puppy, and i can just go to the shop and buy me a new one...

There are no people around me that actually know what i am going thru in my life, they all say don't worry you can fall pregnant again, and we have been struggling now for 15months.....

OR it was maby for the best... ye best for who, OR maby there was something wrong with CJ, ye like what????

Sorry im having a total freak out again today......

I carried my child for 37weeks and 2days, i lost his twin at 3months, as if that wasn't hard enough.....

 

[NickyNix]

I am so sorry you've had to go through that. You are completely entitled to have a freak out! I really think people just don't know what to say and don't understand, in which case sometimes it would be better if they didn't say anything at all.

I really hope it all goes well for you

xxx

 

[makemeamammy]

i don't know what to say as i can't relate but i just want to send u this - i know it's not much but it's all i can do, i feel awful for u hun and i'm sorry u have had to deal with people saying these things to u xxxx

 

[Stardancer]

I've had losses at my 12 week scan, and it's crippled me. I cannot imagine how hard it must have been for you. People are just crap... it's rarely insensitivity, it might be because they just can't understand because they've never been there, but I think its mostly that people try to say the right thing and it comes out all wrong. In my experience, people generally aren't trying to hurt you, they just don't think.

My friend lost her Mum recently, she's an only child, no father, no family, and she's 25. I have struggled no end to say the right thing. There's nothing anyone can say.. what you've been through is horrific, and nobody can make it better, so ignore everyone, and then go home and scream the house down.

Sorry sweetie

 

[miel]

 

[v2007]

I also had a stillbirth so i know your pain, Im so sorry for your loss and please feel free to PM me if u wud like to have a chat.

Victoria x x x

 

[Sambatiki]

jacky,

rant rant rant away hun. I would be feeling exactly the same and sometimes do!! I was 'lucky' and naturally MC at 7 weeks. I couldnt come close to feeling the pain that you are. Ive read many of your posts to others, and your such a kind and caring person. I dont think anyone gets over the loss of the child no matter how short their time was with you.

Just want to offer you loads of and hope that these inconsiderate ppl, remember to think before they speak!

Take care

Kerry xxx

 

[lola]

 

[sam's mum]

I'm so sorry - people can be so insensitive, and they think they need to say something so they open their mouths without thinking x

 

[Eoz]

Aww you poor thing.Only the people who have been through this can sympathise.I lost a twin to the one i'm carrying and i always wonder how it could have been.I have also lost 9 babys (12 wks or less) and people say surely it must get easier as you go on.ummm no it dont.Babe get a big soft cushion and squeeze it,punch it,Kick it whatever you need to do to help get your anger out.Things will pick up and one day soon (fingers crossed) you'll be holding a precious bundle in your arms.And as for the tossers f**k em ! All the best.big hugs xxxx

 

[NeyNey]

 

[cleckner04]

Aww hunny I just read this and didn't want to read and run. I have no idea how you feel. I recently miscarried but that just isn't the same at all. You can rant away all you want. I am so terribly sorry for your losses. I wish I had the words to say to help, but no one really does in a time like this. You are in my thoughts and although I am not typically religious your in my prayers as well. Good luck in the future.

 

[honeybunch2k7]

I'm sorry jackie, for your losses and b/c of insensitive people.

 

[Marg_27]

Im so sorry, and like the others hav said, rant away!!! Thas what we're here for!!! and if people only hav insensitive things to say, thye're not worth listening to! I lost ine at 7 weeks and found that hard, so I cant even begin to imagine what ur goin thru, so sorry

 

[clairebear]

hun im so sorry people are so insensitive x x

 

[Elli21]

 

[Jemma_x]

Hey hun, im so sorry about your loss. I lost my daughter at 21+3 and i no its not exactly the same but i no how insensitive people can be, you lost your son and no-one will understand how you feel. When i lost lauren so many people turned round and said she's not even a real person yet though and i felt heartbroken that they couldnt see my daughter was a real person and i no how hard it is to get through it. If you ever want to talk im mostly always on here so just send me a Pm. x

 

[cherylanne]

Hugs hun. Rant away xxx

 

[todteach]

 

[JJF]