I made such a huge mistake!

[Louise 32]

Hi,

I'm feeling pretty hopeless at the moment. My partner and I currently rent in Kingston in a tiny one bed flat. During the two week wait, tension was rising and we ended up having a huge argument due to all the stress of ttc. Our neighbour heard us shouting (20 minutes maximum) and reported us so that we are now being evicted!

All the stress has added up and I just can't imagine getting pregnant now with all the new worry of finding a new apartment. I have had my first consultation and am undergoing investigations at fertility hospital in Kingston. I moved my GP from Hertfordshire when arriving n Kingston. I had no idea back then, that Hertfordshire offers 3 cycles of IVF and Kingston only 1!!! I can't switch back to Hertfordshire now as the residency criteria states you must have been registered with a GP for 12 months before referral! Damm!
As we are now having to move anyway, we are considering locations that will offer the best fertility treatment and are therefore thinking of moving to Surrey as this at least offers 2 rounds of IVF if necessary and IUI. Am I ridiculous to base our property search largely on CCG?
I am so devastated that I have screwed everything up by losing my temper with my partner and having that silly argument that has cost us our flat. Trying to turn it into a positive by moving to a borough with more IVF chances now is making me question my sanity but I equally can't help but feel angry I moved from Hertfordshire where there were 3 IVF rounds offered! Feeling very regretful and lost now.
Has anyone else had arguments with other halves as a result of the stress?
Has anyone else considered the postcode lottery when moving properties?
Any help truly appreciated

 

[pradabooties]

Hi there

I'm very sorry to hear that you are dealing with such a stressful situation while TTC. It is easy to feel tense while TTC and I'm sure many couples have tiffs during this time.

I think the most important thing is to move somewhere relaxing for you both where you can enjoy TTC and also somewhere that will be safe and calm when you are pregnant and then with a newborn. Of course I do not know how long you've been trying so if you do think you require IVF soon then that may be a different story - doing research into local hospitals fertility programs does not sound crazy at all!

I hope it all works out and you and your partner find a lovely home to continue TTC or IVF xx

 

[zorak]

On what legal basis are you being evicted? Arguments happen, I really don't see how you can be evicted for this.

 

[Teri7489]

Is it just the one occasion of arguing? I dont mean to pry but if its a one off then they really don't have grounds to evict you. You are legally entitled to a warning first. I would get some advice before having the stress of finding somewhere new to live xxx

 

[Tink_]

Hey,

I'm very sorry to hear how difficult things are for you right now.

I definitely do not think you are crazy for looking at options in regards to IVF. My partner and I had been looking to move but part of my decision to stay where we are, was a better chance of IVF if needed.

Also, I've had many more arguments with my OH over TTC. I love him dearly and vice versa but it's so stressful and sometimes it just gets too much. Especially now with the fertility investigations. For us, sometimes a little bit of space (couple of hours not weeks!) has helped and let me de-stress a bit because to be honest, he is quite chilled out about it and me not so much.

Sorry I don't have very long right now to reply but wanted to say you aren't alone and message me if you want to chat xxx

 

[mum140381]

its even more stressful when u have a baby hun try to sort out any differences with your oh maybe take a break from ttc if its all getting 2 much only u can decided and they cant evict u for 1 augment even if the police get involved so i would look into that hugs x