I might no longer have to be a single mommy :]

[LilMama2be]

I have been dating this new guy, (not baby daddy) but i've known him for longer than the baby's actual daddy. We've been dating for 3 weeks and 1-2 days, but have been best friends for about 2-3 years.

Anyways, i was on the phone with him tonight, and my mom storms in, upset about my brother and realized she couldn't yell at me about anything because i was on the phone with him, so she tried to yell at me, with out using words like "pregnant" and stuff, because she doesn't know i've already told him (i'm not supposed to tell certain people, or anyone else until january on her "rules").

Well, I told him that it sucks when she acts like that, because it makes me feel like shit, she was mad at my brother for something, and starts yelling at me about my "situation". and i haven't even done anything wrong that could of upset her, I stay out of her way ALL day everyday.

Like i was saying I was telling him, it sucks when she acts like that, because i cant complain about the way she's acting towards me, or talk to her about it in a mature way at all. If i dont like how she's treating me, I get kicked out.

Then he was talking about when he moves out, I am welcome to go with him, because the apartment he is moving into is literally a 3-5 minute drive from my house. and i was like "yeah with ALL THE MONEY I HAVE FOR AN APARTMENT" ... i didn't get it at first and he kept saying things like "I wasn't asking you to live with me, and have you pay. I'm asking you to live with me. period." Then i got it.

Well then he said "Oh what i was trying to say is that your kid is going to be a big part of you now, and i know your dont expect me to like supply everything or whatever but i want you to be a part of my life forever and i am fully committed to being here for you and your child in every possible way that i can, not because its some sort of obligation or anything but i want to be there. Trust me i have thought this through long and hand and being there for you in any any every way is what i really want."

And i said "i dont want to pressure you into that."

He said "It's not pressure. your not asking me too and its not my obligation. its what i want to do. please dont ever think you pressured me. this is what i truly want to do"

then i asked "so you want to be a daddy.. sort of?"
and he said "yes i do, i really do :] "
yay! =]


=]
I'm not happy that he's wanting to support me, i dont want to even make him pay for one cent of anything. But that he's offering to do this, with out me even asking him to do ANYTHING, makes me sooo incredibly happy =]

I cant wait till i'm "allowed to tell him"
And tell my mom his reaction.

She has been telling me not to get my hopes up with him, because she thinks he'll be like the baby daddy, but she doesn't realize we've been best friends for a while, and he was raised knowing how to treat a lady.
And when she knows he thinks this way, she'll probably be over the moon and back =]


i'm excited!


I had to get that out
because none of my friends are online!

 

[kookie]

thats fantastic hun so happy for u and baby he must be a really great guy your so lucky. can i ask why ur mum wont let you tell till january? seems odd thats all. xx

 

[March mummy]

I hope it works out for you. Don't put all your eggs in one basket though just incase. I know it sounds harsh but when it comes to ment they unpredictable creatures who can change there mind at a whimper (or the sight of another woman lol).

I pinned my hopes on a guy and I now definately on my own with this baby, although my mum is great. Just dont get to into the idea as as you said you have to wait till January before your officially allowed to tell him and thats still a few weeks away and things may change.

By the way why does your mum control when you tell people your pregnant is it not your decision, afterall if you old enough to be pregnant you old enough to make your own decisions on things and tell people when you want to and not when your mum says its Ok.

She may be your mum and you will most probably need her around alot especially when the LO arrives, but she needs to realise that this LO is your responsibilty and not hers and any decisions about LO are yours and yours alone.


Good Luck hun, and I really do hope that it all works out for you.

Hugs.

 

[honey08]

thats grt hun really hope all ends well i think u shud live by ur rules now uknow,and especially when it comes to telling pp

 

[Stardancer]

You'd have thought it would be the other way around - tell him straight away so he knows the situation he's getting himself into. You definately did the right thing - I can't imagine any man would be pleased finding out your pregnant after dating a couple of months.

Hope everything works out for you both

 

[LilMama2be]

My mom basically says if I want to live here, and have her support, i should refrain from telling EVERYONE, I was allowed to tell my close friends. But not my friends she thinks will "tell everyone". I already told everyone though, i just told her i didn't

=] I told them before i told her, so... it was kind of too late. But when i told her she was all mad and was like "YOU DIDN'T TELL ALANNAH ANNIKKA OR AUDREY DID YOU?"
..."no mom...." haha, oh well. =] but i'm making it public within the next few weeks =]
Because i'm going to still be at my current school until january 22nd, and i'll be 20 weeks.

And a lot of people already "know" but they didn't hear it from me, everyone's talking about it.

EDIT:
oh and she doesn't want everyone in the school finding out and giving me a hard time for it because girl at my school, are HARSH sometimes.
and some girls don't know when to shut up. and she knows if i get mad enough at them, i'll attack, literally. lol

 

[LilMama2be]

oh and thanks everyone for the positive comments =]

and as march mummy says i wont put all my eggs in the basket.

but if this works out, and maybe a year from now, maybe things could happen.

i dont wanna move out right away =]

 

[starbucks101]

I'm guessing her reasons are they your a very very young mum then if your still at school? Are you under 16? I don't know your mum but if thats the case i imagine she'd want it kept on the DL for the stress it could cuase you at school.

Glad you met someone nice hun, Be aware though that if it all goes to plan & you move in to together your cash flow will be mega tight with you having to change your benefits!

Are you planning on going to college?

 

[xarlenex]

Aw, he sounds like a pretty decent guy, I hope things work out for yous then

I totally agree that you done the right thing telling him. It would have been so unfair to hide it from him x

 

[Alexas Mommy]

that's great! I have a friend who has a child, and has been with another guy (not her daughters father) he has been with her since about 3 months pregnant, and he treats Savannah as his own. Savannah is now 16 months old, and he is still around being a daddy, while her biological father has nothing to do with her at all... hopefully it all works out!

 

[LilMama2be]

I'm 17 btw. and will be 18 before baby is born, I'm graduating early, in january.
and I plan on going to community college

 

[Lucy&Pard]

He sounds like a nice boy! Hope everything works out for you and your LO XXXx

 

[tasha41]

Hope it all works out for you hun

My friend is with a new guy who wants to be 'daddy', but the biological father found out and flipped right out and has brought her to court.. argh it's so ridiculous; the baby's "real dad" has visited 5 times over 11 months and once while she was in the hospital (they were in the hospital over a week). Also, the baby is 11 months old and the biological father has JUST changed his first diaper.. argh, makes me so mad.. he's never given her an ounce of support; no money, no gifts.. nothing.

Anyways the way it worked out with court is that he can see the baby, she has to consent to a DNA test but he doesn't have to pay child support as he works part time and is only 17. Unfair I think that he can have access to his son, he can basically come 3 times in one month then none at all for the next 6.. and not give her any money or anything to help out.

I REALLY hope the biological father can be mature about everything in your situation!!