i must sound completely stupid

[XsarahGrace]

but i was walking round asda with my mum and we saw this couple with a baby,
and my mum was like that'll be you in a few months, i completely
snapped
and went no it won't there a happy couple and i'm on my own and burst out crying



i feel so jealous.
is this normal or am i just being a complete and utter horrible person.

 

[xxannxx]

Hiya, I would say that you're completely normal. I broke up with my son's dad a few weeks after he was born, he's now almost 3, and at times when see a couple out with their kids I still get jealous, just not that often anymore. I know that I'm far, far happier on my own than with my ex, and a far better mum, as I'm not worrying about anything other than my son. Also, deep down I'm glad that I don't have to share my son, we are so close because its just 2 of us, and although I would love to meet someone else in future am really content as I am.
Don't worry it gets easier and will be so worth it once you have your baby.

 

[Gemma1981]

Same here. I am a so much better mum on my own. I must admit the only time I get jealous is that I'd like someone with me, not so much to help me with the kids, but to be with me. I'm not sure I'm quite ready for a relationship though!

 

[AppleBlossom]

I get jealous when I see that kind of thing. But I know I'll find someone one day and be happier than I ever was than when I was with my loser of an ex. In the meantime, I have my baby and that's all that matters, some people don't even have that

 

[june09]

I think it's completely normal, while I know I am better off without my ex I do get jealous when i see couples looking so happy and pregnant and think I wish I had someone to share this whole pregnancy with in that way.

 

[Landingmach3]

I've done the same....don't feel bad or stupid or anything else. I really think it's a normal reaction. TBH I do get jealous still sometimes and my DD is already over 6 months old. I just want the same thing couples have...the opportunity to share the joys and downsides of raising a child they created together. I completely understand how you feel.

 

[tinkabells]

Nope you sound normal to me, i no it sounds horrible, but i hate seeing mums and dads out and dads pushing prams and think i wont have that, or even just that support, but then again i look and think, but i've got my family and friends i no its not the same but, but least its something?! xxx

 

[dolly28]

Wow, its amazing to see just how many people all share the same situation and have the same thoughts and feelings!!

I am exactly the same, for me it was when I went for my scan and I sat and looked around at all the couples looking like happy famillys and I was sat there on my own, I went home and cried!! I only have another 2 weeks to my due date and I have done all of it with my mum, and I tell you what I would rather have her there than the father who has treated me like poo!!!

If you ever fancy a chat, pm me. You will be fine xx

 

[tinkabells]

Wow, its amazing to see just how many people all share the same situation and have the same thoughts and feelings!!

I am exactly the same, for me it was when I went for my scan and I sat and looked around at all the couples looking like happy famillys and I was sat there on my own, I went home and cried!! I only have another 2 weeks to my due date and I have done all of it with my mum, and I tell you what I would rather have her there than the father who has treated me like poo!!!

If you ever fancy a chat, pm me. You will be fine xx

Totally agree with you, my mum has been there through everything with me and is my birthing partner as well, i couldnt do it without her and i wouldnt want him near me for any of it, he dont deserve to be there for these times, but does still get to me, and plus kowing his playing happy families with his girlfriend and his other baby and im doing this on my own xxx

 

[june09]

Wow, its amazing to see just how many people all share the same situation and have the same thoughts and feelings!!

I am exactly the same, for me it was when I went for my scan and I sat and looked around at all the couples looking like happy famillys and I was sat there on my own, I went home and cried!! I only have another 2 weeks to my due date and I have done all of it with my mum, and I tell you what I would rather have her there than the father who has treated me like poo!!!

If you ever fancy a chat, pm me. You will be fine xx

I am exactly the same. I do get jealous when I see familys and especially when I went for my scans or classes and they were all couples it made me feel sad that wasn't me in a couple. But I have had my mum there with me for all of it, and she has been amazing. As much as I sometimes wish I was doing this as a couple in a relationship, I would much rather it be my mum with me through all of this than the father who treated me like poo. It's definitely not a case of wishing I was doing the whole thing with the father as a couple, but i do think it must be a nice thing to go through with someone when your actually in a good loving relationship with them. So thats what gets me feeling a bit jealous or miserable at times.