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We did the dna test and fob now wants to be involved and is purchasing items and requesting to see her.
Since April 30 I've taken lo by almost every saturday, and once during the work week. I've explained how tired I am since I have lupus during work week and how lo and I have a evening routine and I didn't really want to drive his way after working 9 hours so they could see each other but during the weekend I get up early get lo dressed and make sure lo sees her father. He then responded by saying okay I understand. Since I've recently purchased a house he's come over to help me set up our lo's room and has spent time with her then.... He had been asking what her social security number was and went through some of my papers while at my home and found it. He then brought it to me and asked me if that's what it was. I tried not to get angry since lo was around, but I did tell him i didn't appreciate him going through MY THINGS IN MY BEDROOM! to search for something I told him he had no permission to get. He apologized.... Well since he's been seeing her on saturday's for a month now he has been begging to watch her.. he recently lost his job and wants me to take her from the sitter who's been watching her since she was 6 weeks old... to allow him to watch her.. I have issues with this and told him I wasn't going to take my child from her sitter abruptly at his request. He called this morning asking could he come get her... he informed me he purchased a car seat... I said no.. like I told your yesterday the sitter has already been paid.. He said well I want to keep my daughter and started crying.. he told me he'd call me back.. called back in fifteen minutes apologizing for his behavior and tells me that he wants to come my way to keep her. I said again no! and he said well I want to put her in daycare.. I previously told him that we could place lo in a facility that's half way between the two of us and he could visit and maybe pick her up sometimes in the evenings and bring her to my house. Since he found out that the sitter is my best friend's (who's a male) mother he has been pushing for a new daycare saying he doesn't want another male holding his child.... I told him well... look one up.. you're not working so find one we'll check it out together and make a judgement.. I did tell him that financially I couldn't afford 400+ for daycare and he insisted he'd pay that.. I insisted he didn't because I know that he'll feel like he can call the shots once he pays for something. In regards to the no male holding his child I brushed him off. I told him something similiar.. my words were please be mindful of the company you keep... I respect our child by not having all types of people/males around her and please do the same.. unless you're seriously dating a woman and we've met or unless you're married and once again we've met.. don't have the random females you mess with around and holding/kissing my baby. . . He told me that keeping her 2 to 3 hours is getting old... he's only kept her once.. last saturday.. now he's asking for a whole day.... ONCE AGAIN I DO NOT FEEL COMFORTABLE doing this with my baby and I keep explaining that this takes time.. I'm not saying years but once she's comfortable and mostly I'm comfortable we well increase the house. He stayed on the phone with me the entire time I drove to the sitter which is may 5 minutes from my mothers house.. and demanded I tell him where lo is being kept.. he also asked to speak with the sitter and gave her his number just incase anything happened. he also asked where she lived and other things.... after that conversation... he calls me back asking could we pray together... and thanked me for allowing him to voice his concerns.. and says well I love you Jess. HE IS BUGGING THE HELL OUTTA ME! I don't want to feel pressured into him keeping my baby when I'm not comfortable yet..... what are the rules for visition with a baby under one? What do you think?
Since April 30 I've taken lo by almost every saturday, and once during the work week. I've explained how tired I am since I have lupus during work week and how lo and I have a evening routine and I didn't really want to drive his way after working 9 hours so they could see each other but during the weekend I get up early get lo dressed and make sure lo sees her father. He then responded by saying okay I understand. Since I've recently purchased a house he's come over to help me set up our lo's room and has spent time with her then.... He had been asking what her social security number was and went through some of my papers while at my home and found it. He then brought it to me and asked me if that's what it was. I tried not to get angry since lo was around, but I did tell him i didn't appreciate him going through MY THINGS IN MY BEDROOM! to search for something I told him he had no permission to get. He apologized.... Well since he's been seeing her on saturday's for a month now he has been begging to watch her.. he recently lost his job and wants me to take her from the sitter who's been watching her since she was 6 weeks old... to allow him to watch her.. I have issues with this and told him I wasn't going to take my child from her sitter abruptly at his request. He called this morning asking could he come get her... he informed me he purchased a car seat... I said no.. like I told your yesterday the sitter has already been paid.. He said well I want to keep my daughter and started crying.. he told me he'd call me back.. called back in fifteen minutes apologizing for his behavior and tells me that he wants to come my way to keep her. I said again no! and he said well I want to put her in daycare.. I previously told him that we could place lo in a facility that's half way between the two of us and he could visit and maybe pick her up sometimes in the evenings and bring her to my house. Since he found out that the sitter is my best friend's (who's a male) mother he has been pushing for a new daycare saying he doesn't want another male holding his child.... I told him well... look one up.. you're not working so find one we'll check it out together and make a judgement.. I did tell him that financially I couldn't afford 400+ for daycare and he insisted he'd pay that.. I insisted he didn't because I know that he'll feel like he can call the shots once he pays for something. In regards to the no male holding his child I brushed him off. I told him something similiar.. my words were please be mindful of the company you keep... I respect our child by not having all types of people/males around her and please do the same.. unless you're seriously dating a woman and we've met or unless you're married and once again we've met.. don't have the random females you mess with around and holding/kissing my baby. . . He told me that keeping her 2 to 3 hours is getting old... he's only kept her once.. last saturday.. now he's asking for a whole day.... ONCE AGAIN I DO NOT FEEL COMFORTABLE doing this with my baby and I keep explaining that this takes time.. I'm not saying years but once she's comfortable and mostly I'm comfortable we well increase the house. He stayed on the phone with me the entire time I drove to the sitter which is may 5 minutes from my mothers house.. and demanded I tell him where lo is being kept.. he also asked to speak with the sitter and gave her his number just incase anything happened. he also asked where she lived and other things.... after that conversation... he calls me back asking could we pray together... and thanked me for allowing him to voice his concerns.. and says well I love you Jess. HE IS BUGGING THE HELL OUTTA ME! I don't want to feel pressured into him keeping my baby when I'm not comfortable yet..... what are the rules for visition with a baby under one? What do you think?
