lemonlemon
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Hey everyone!
So here's the background story.. Back in October, I miscarried. It was our first time trying, and we got pregnant in our first month! (I had an IUD for 7 years before that.. had it removed, got my first period, then tried right away). I found out I was miscarrying pretty much in the first week of finding out I was pregnant. My HCG levels weren't doubling.. so they thought it was an ectopic. i ended up getting the methotrexate shot, twice, because after the first shot, my numbers were not decreasing.
So by November, everything was completely over, and my numbers were back down to 0.
Hubby and I at first thought we would start trying again in March.. but I kind of went through a breakdown where I just felt like maybe this was a sign that we weren't ready. I questioned everything in my life, I got depressed, I felt like I Just wanted to run away and start a new life over again.. I'm 29, (30 in June) and I've worked 24/7 through my whole 20's. I started to feel like I hadn't done anything in my life, I hadn't enjoyed my 20's. So I thought, maybe instead of trying in March, let's wait until after my 30th so I can celebrate, and in the meantime, hubby and I can enjoy our time with just us, and really take advantage of that time..
Since we decided to wait until after my 30th, I've gone to counseling and I feel so much better.. And now I feel like i don't want to wait until after my birthday. It would mean waiting another 2 months instead of just starting to try now. One side of me wants to try right away.. the other side is saying "what's another 2 months.. " Some mom friends of mine tell me "enjoy being without kids while you can". They of course love being moms though!! It's just advice that they've given me.. And the other women who could never get pregnant, tell me "don't wait!!"
I want some more opinions!! What should I do?? Should I just wait the 2 months? Or start trying now?? I'm not a huge drinker anyway, but I do feel like it would be nice to have one last big hurrah since I never really got to enjoy myself in my 20's. I've never really had birthday parties.. and the other thing is that I'm in school and finish taking my final exams at the Beginning of June.. So I just worry about being to stressed with school while TTC. I know i'm overthinking things, but i would appreciate any input!! What would you do??
So here's the background story.. Back in October, I miscarried. It was our first time trying, and we got pregnant in our first month! (I had an IUD for 7 years before that.. had it removed, got my first period, then tried right away). I found out I was miscarrying pretty much in the first week of finding out I was pregnant. My HCG levels weren't doubling.. so they thought it was an ectopic. i ended up getting the methotrexate shot, twice, because after the first shot, my numbers were not decreasing.
So by November, everything was completely over, and my numbers were back down to 0.
Hubby and I at first thought we would start trying again in March.. but I kind of went through a breakdown where I just felt like maybe this was a sign that we weren't ready. I questioned everything in my life, I got depressed, I felt like I Just wanted to run away and start a new life over again.. I'm 29, (30 in June) and I've worked 24/7 through my whole 20's. I started to feel like I hadn't done anything in my life, I hadn't enjoyed my 20's. So I thought, maybe instead of trying in March, let's wait until after my 30th so I can celebrate, and in the meantime, hubby and I can enjoy our time with just us, and really take advantage of that time..
Since we decided to wait until after my 30th, I've gone to counseling and I feel so much better.. And now I feel like i don't want to wait until after my birthday. It would mean waiting another 2 months instead of just starting to try now. One side of me wants to try right away.. the other side is saying "what's another 2 months.. " Some mom friends of mine tell me "enjoy being without kids while you can". They of course love being moms though!! It's just advice that they've given me.. And the other women who could never get pregnant, tell me "don't wait!!"
I want some more opinions!! What should I do?? Should I just wait the 2 months? Or start trying now?? I'm not a huge drinker anyway, but I do feel like it would be nice to have one last big hurrah since I never really got to enjoy myself in my 20's. I've never really had birthday parties.. and the other thing is that I'm in school and finish taking my final exams at the Beginning of June.. So I just worry about being to stressed with school while TTC. I know i'm overthinking things, but i would appreciate any input!! What would you do??
