I need some advice...

[Bethanie22]

Okay so I'll start by saying that I am not 100% sure yet that I am pregnant... well I'll start from the beginning. In February I had a one night stand with a friend of mine sure enough a month later I missed my period. I talked to him and my mom and together we all decided it was best to have an abortion. I have always said I would never do it but at the time it seemed like I had no other choice. It has been the hardest ting in the world for me to cope with and I know i could NEVER go through with that again. After all of that I started dated my current boyfriend. He is 21 and I am 19. Having been pregnant before I know what it feels like and this is it. I am 2 semesters away from graduating with my Associate degree and if I do end up being pregnant right now I will graduate before my baby is born. I told my boyfriend last night that there is a definite possibility that I am and he said until we are sure it isn't something to talk about. I then said "well lets hope I'm not" and he looked at me and said "or lets hope you are." I know he wants to have a baby and I if I am pregnant I do too but how do I tell my mom? It hasn't even been a year since my abortion and I am scared to death that she will be mad at me. Its just a completely different situation though. The first time was a one night stand this time I'm in an actual relationship. I'm just nervous, I know my boyfriend and I can do this and in all actuality I'll be 20 by the time the baby is due I'm still just nervous... if anyone could give me some advice or just tell me it will all be okay I would greatly appreciate it!!

 

[vinteenage]

Hon, this thread will be locked. We can only talk about confirmed pregnancies. We're also not allowed to speak of abortions, all of the girls here have chosen to keep their baby (or put him/her up for adoption) and it's upsetting to read about the other option.

If you are pregnant, I'm sure you'll be able to work out keeping your baby. Feel free to come back by once you get a positive test.

 

[Bethanie22]

The abortion I am speaking of is a past choice I made... it is not the choice I am making right now. I am choosing to keep this one but I felt like it was necessary for people to be able to give me the right advice for what is going on right now. But fine I will come back after it is confirmed although all I'm looking for is help on how to tell my mom....

 

[Jadelm]

The abortion I am speaking of is a past choice I made... it is not the choice I am making right now. I am choosing to keep this one but I felt like it was necessary for people to be able to give me the right advice for what is going on right now. But fine I will come back after it is confirmed although all I'm looking for is help on how to tell my mom....

Just get it over and done with hun, like ripping off a plaster! It's tough but it's better to just take a deep breath come out with it and wait for the reaction. I'm sure once you've explained everything she'll come round
I'd do the test first though hun otherwise you risk causing a load of drama and upset over nothing. Good luck and see you back here soon if you get your positive x