I really just need someone to talk to :l

[InchWorm]

So I've been thinking that I'm pregnant for like, 3 weeks.. but just today is when I went and officially got tested at planned parenthood&turns out I am.

6 1/2 weeks.

I've got a consultation scheduled for Friday, but I'm really freaking out..

My boyfriend/babys father is on a business trip until Sunday&I haven't told him yet..

I really just need someone to help calm me down&logically process this.. -__-

 

[cammy]

Firstly, congrats.

It is perfectly normal to feel confused, scared or worried. I was when I found out about my first and I was still living with my parents and at high school and my boyfriend was too and only working after school shifts at woolworths. It takes a little time to adjust.

Do you live with your family? Do you think they will be supportive? I didn't have a very supportive family, but my boyfriend was there for me and we did everything we could to make a good home for our baby.

I'm happy to talk. Is there anything you wanna know or talk about?

 

[InchWorm]

I don't live with my family anymore, I live with my boyfriend..

I'm not sure if they'll be supportive... I think my parents will be really upset about it :l

I don't even know what my boyfriend will want to do.. I know he doesn't want a kid right now... but I just don't know):

I'm just way scared about everything.

 

[greenwood17]

Hi inchworm
Can I ask you how old are you? and when is the baby due date?

 

[cammy]

well how about instead of thinking about what he will want, why don't you just try to focus on what you want right now. That way you have an idea of how you feel about it and what you want before you tell anyone else, because then they might start to influence your decision and you may regret what you choose. Do you have an idea of what you want to do?

It is probably best that you tell him in person. I told mine over the phone, because I was really freaking out. Thankfully he took it a lot better then I did and he was over the moon with joy. But sometimes telling these sort of things over the phone isn't a good idea, because you never know how they react. But the decision is yours, if you feel you can't wait, the tell him.

 

[xforuiholdonx]

Firstly. Congratulations!
Secondly. This isnt about.your.boyfriend, or your.parents. this is about you, and what you want. If you want this child, then dont let anyone force you to do something youll regret. With our first.pregnancy,everyone told me.to abort. I refused. My now husband stood by me, even through the miscarriage. We planned our second pregnancy, our daughter. I was 17, had graduated, and we were living.on our own. Were people happy? No. Did we care? Not a.chance in hell. We are pregnant with our second now, a little boy and though times have.not been the easiest, we make it work. Yoh need to decide what YOU want. And enforce it. Might be better if you tell your boyfriend.over the phone while hes.gone, so.he can adjust and be.level headed.when he arrives home.
Im lisa, aged at 20. If you ever need to chat, pm me!

 

[teenmommy15]

its completely normal to feel panicked and worry about what others may think and say. i thought my mom was gonna freak but she turned out to be very supportive it took her a while to adjust but she is definitely amazing support to have. and your boyfriend may not be happy at first but maybe he'll adjust and even if he decides he doesnt want a kid right now and wants you to get rid of it, its not your decision because in the end the decision will effect you the most. so whatever you want you should decide and tell your boyfriend before he has a chance to say anything let him know how you feel.

 

[Caitie44]

Firstly, congrats! I know exactly how you feel. I found out I was pregnant three weeks ago (currently 8 weeks and 3 days) when I was 5 weeks and 2 days. My initial reaction was to sob uncontrollably and curl up in a corner. I feel much more relaxed now! I do think you need to tell your boyfriend soon (either when he gets back or over the phone, whichever is more comfortable for you). You never know, he could be surprisingly supportive throughout the entire ordeal. With my first pregnancy, my boyfriend was terrified and wanted to abort - but the more he gave it thought, the more excited he became.

Even if that isn't your boyfriend's reaction, please keep in mind that this is what you want to do, not him. There are programs such as WIC that can help you out considerably. Make sure to look up a lot of information - it can seem daunting at first, but once you start finding information it gets easier. Maybe think of some plans or ideas to show to your boyfriend when he gets home? That way he won't be feeling completely lost. Good luck with everything, and if you need to talk feel free to shoot me a PM! I'm Caitie, eighteen, and due in October.

 

[InchWorm]

Ahh, thank all of you guys.
I'm about to leave for a doctors appointment in like 20 minutes, and I'm going to call him after that.
I'm really nervous, I wish he was here to come with me, but alas..
I'm still really worried&kinda freaking out, but I know that it'll be alright soo...

 

[teenmommy15]

it will get better even if it gets worst first have a good time at your appointment dont be nervous just focus on your little baby pm if you want

 

[magic93]

Congrats on your pregnancy
Everything will work out, and youve got lots of time before LO gets here to get anything that needs to be straightened out in order.
Tell your boyfriend asap, personally i would rather tell him in person but do whatevers most comfortable for you.
Best of luck with everything, pm if you ever need to talk.
Im Lisa, 19 and im 39 weeks with a boy

 

[Justinel101]

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I'm about 6.5-7 weeks pregnant. My parents and grandparents found out and flipped but my boyfriend is extremely supportive although he didnt want a baby yet. I'm sure yours will be the same way. At least you guys already live together, I get to look forward to moving all my stuff at 7 months pregnant. But just remember to stay stress free and don't worry about what other people think. I started to get very stressed and baby's heart rate was low so now I'm watching myself much more carefully. It really is a blessing though. I'm so excited to be a mom, I'm sure you are to!

 

[xforuiholdonx]

I hope your appt went well hun!

 

[30pkfr]

Hope your ok i was scared to tell my boyfriend i text him haha :/ but he was soooo supportive i hope ures is too xxxxx

 

[x__amour]

Congratulations and welcome! I'm Shannon, 21, and I have a 2 year old named Victoria "Tori"!

 

[mayb_baby]

Welcome and congrats
I'm Lorna, 21 and I have a 2yo called Michael