I really need some advice

[katiebeth]

Well my boyfriend and started dating in April of last year and broke up in July. Five days later i found out i was pregnant and we got back together in october. Lately he started acting different he calls me fat everytime i see him. he said he can only see me once a wekk or else i make him sick, and he is constantly comparing me to different girls. I know all of that soulds really bad but other times he says he loves me and wants to be with me. Im so confused and i really dont know what to do anymore. im constantly wondering if he is going to be with me form one day to the next. I know i should leave him and move on but i leep telling myself that everything will change when the baby gets here but i dont want us to be in a realtionship just because of our son. Please tell me what you would do if you were in my situation.

 

[leeanne]

Oh honey, he's treating you badly. Honestly, if he truly loved you like he says he does, he wouldn't say hurtful comments to you.

I know what I would do but I think you have to decide for yourself if this relationship is healthy.

 

[katiebeth]

I just dont know where everything went wrong. Everything was fine until he started going out to a bar with one of his friends. I couldnt go because you have to be 19 to get in and im only 18. everytime he goes he comes back and treats me like im nothing to him but after a few days everything goes back to normal until he goes out again.

 

[brownhairedmom]

Okay I don't want to hurt your feelings, but in my experience when guys start acting different and starting new behaviour, there's usually another girl involved. It sounds to me like he's starting shit just to make you feel bad so that you'll leave him Get away from his sorry ass. My ex did the same abusive mind crap with me and all it does is tear you down! Get away, leave him in the dust honey

 

[Parkep]

Okay I don't want to hurt your feelings, but in my experience when guys start acting different and starting new behaviour, there's usually another girl involved. It sounds to me like he's starting shit just to make you feel bad so that you'll leave him Get away from his sorry ass. My ex did the same abusive mind crap with me and all it does is tear you down! Get away, leave him in the dust honey

I agree 100% please move on, you can do this on your own and you dont need that in your life. There is much better out there hun and you are only 18 and have a long happy life to live with your baby. Find someone that will treat both you and your baby with respect and love everyday not just sometimes. Sorry if it was blunt

 

[Sarah88]

Kick his ass out of your life! This is emotional abuse. you will find someone much better!

 

[xarlenex]

You dont deserve this. Your carrying his child for godsakes!! Its out of order. Get rid of him, your worth so much more. You WILL find a guy who will treat you properly, dont stay with him for the sake of having someone

 

[princessttc]

If someone calls me FAT and im pregnant or even if i was FAT i swear all they would see is my ass wobbling out the door

sorry ur having such a hard time, i hope things get better for u

 

[Naya69]

i kinda was in the same situation the guy i thought was joshuas dad we got together because i was pregnant and the stupid midwifes told me he was the dad but he was horrible one day he would be fine saying he loved me and he respected me so much then the next day he would be callin me or texting other girls and always was making me cry by this time i had had the baby and i had to put josh first and not my feelings so i did the dna which came negative thank god and i walked i couldnt have a role model like that around my child and then it was his turn to cry xoxox

 

[Mummy&bump]

hun i think i need 2 state 1 major fact to this guy ' YOU ARE NOT FAT YOU ARE PREGNANT'.
the last thing my ex said to me was good luck, who'd want a fat ugly pregnant bird anyway! for info im a size 8!! and without bein vein im not ugly!
i think 2 me this sounds like a little mental abuse! hes tellin u things ur not so u feel insecure about urself and not hav the courage 2 leave! every1 is beautiful in there on way and ur still only 18 u hav so much living 2 do without him holding u back lovely!

keep ur chin up and stand up 4 urself and make it very clear to him if does not change his ways and hav respect 4 u then he knows where the door is! but if u do this u hav 2 mean it, no going back!

good luck

xxx

 

[AppleBlossom]

If he loved you he wouldn't say such hurtful things to you. I think its best for you and your baby if you leave him

 

[xXDonnaXx]

I'd have bin-bagged him the day he called me FAT. :O

How dare he!

And how dare he say "You'll make me sick" What a d""k!

You don't need somebody like that. You can't put up with that