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Hey girls,
Been reading through this sub-forum for the first time ever, and just needed to write how much I wish I was in here.
I will (as briefly as I can) tell you my history.
Labour number one was an induction at 35/36 weeks due to pre-eclampsia, it was 27 hours of established labour. I was so poorly that when they recommended an epi I just agreed, and the epi for me was awful, it went on one side and so when I was pushing my left leg kept falling off the bed, I could not push, the mw was screaming at me things like there is no time for breathing. I eventually got him out with no assistance, tears or anything but I vowed no epi ever again, as the lack of control really scared me.
Labour number two, 37 weeks and induction day due to pre-eclampsia, MIL kindly said to me would you not like to be able to do it for real this time. Any way, got there and was waiting for a bed, finally 4pm a bed become available. Just before 5pm I had my first contraction, I kept walking loads and needing to wee, within the hour they were every two minutes, I told the mw to be told she couldnt do an internal yet because I was coping too well. Walked out the room and my waters broke, she did an internal, 8cm's. So quick dash upstairs to labour ward, got there and was given gas and air, two puffs decided I hated it so threw it. Next mw looked and said I was ready, I said I wasnt so she said okay, call me when you feel ready to push (when I was 10cm I was demanding an epi ). I did, and one push later she was out, ruptured her cord cos of the speed or delivery. But it was an amazing experience, I felt so proud and when I thanked the mw she said how it was all me, and that I seemed like I had done it 10 times, as I just listened to my body.
With number three I had a failed induction at 29 weeks, sadly she then fell asleep in my tummy at 36+4 and was born after a very quick induction at 36+6. Although it was very sad circumstances, the labour itself was everything I could of hoped for. They did try to pressure me in to an epi before we even begun, and when I flat out refused they tried to push morphine, I just said we will see) I had the pessary at 11.30am, at 12.30pm I was sent to get lunch from the antenatal ward, whilst there I had my first contraction, it took my breath away. I got back to my room tired (and failed) to eat. I kept needing to wee, and soon realised the toilet was so comfortable At 12.55pm I asked for pain relief, she said no, I made my Mum push for it so she gave me paracetamol at 1pm. I went to the toilet again, and the pessary fell out, I just thought oh no its not gonna work now, when really it should of been oh that must be the head pushing it out I told the mw I needed to poo and couldnt go. This resulted in my trousers and knickers being whipped off, seeing the head crowning, button was pushedfor 2nd mw, deliver pack quickly got out, me moaning I was hot so needed my jumper and socks off. At 1.12pm Honey was born silently into the world.
Labour number four was not what I wanted, induction due to my risks. They broke my waters straight away, my cervix was high and hard but could break it because after previous children it doesnt close properly. After an hour or so no contractions have started so she puts the syntocin (sp) up, with out my consent. Within half an the contractions start, and after not very long my baby is in distress, she calls another mw, then a doctor, another doctor, a consultant, my consultant, all the while she has my legs open and is scratching my baby's head with an amni hook (what they use to break your waters) for thirty minutes. It is on my notes that I have been sexually abused so to do that for so long, with no consent, withn so many people around was quite distressing. In that hour I had gone from 0cm to 6/7cm, it was decided that we were to have an emergency section. The section was fine as was my recovery.
I am obviously never gonna have a home birth because I am so high risk (pre-eclampsia in all four pregnancies, a stillbirth, PROM at 28 weeks, 7 miscarriages, clotting disorders, anaemia, previosu section etc etc) but I would love to have a birth like my second or third. I would also love to feel as if I am part of this, so far all I have heard is they will make the decision closer to the time, what about me and what I want?
Obviously will do anything to make sure baby is here screaming. I just hate hospitals, hate lack of control, so this is hard for me.
Been reading through this sub-forum for the first time ever, and just needed to write how much I wish I was in here.
I will (as briefly as I can) tell you my history.
Labour number one was an induction at 35/36 weeks due to pre-eclampsia, it was 27 hours of established labour. I was so poorly that when they recommended an epi I just agreed, and the epi for me was awful, it went on one side and so when I was pushing my left leg kept falling off the bed, I could not push, the mw was screaming at me things like there is no time for breathing. I eventually got him out with no assistance, tears or anything but I vowed no epi ever again, as the lack of control really scared me.
Labour number two, 37 weeks and induction day due to pre-eclampsia, MIL kindly said to me would you not like to be able to do it for real this time. Any way, got there and was waiting for a bed, finally 4pm a bed become available. Just before 5pm I had my first contraction, I kept walking loads and needing to wee, within the hour they were every two minutes, I told the mw to be told she couldnt do an internal yet because I was coping too well. Walked out the room and my waters broke, she did an internal, 8cm's. So quick dash upstairs to labour ward, got there and was given gas and air, two puffs decided I hated it so threw it. Next mw looked and said I was ready, I said I wasnt so she said okay, call me when you feel ready to push (when I was 10cm I was demanding an epi ). I did, and one push later she was out, ruptured her cord cos of the speed or delivery. But it was an amazing experience, I felt so proud and when I thanked the mw she said how it was all me, and that I seemed like I had done it 10 times, as I just listened to my body.
With number three I had a failed induction at 29 weeks, sadly she then fell asleep in my tummy at 36+4 and was born after a very quick induction at 36+6. Although it was very sad circumstances, the labour itself was everything I could of hoped for. They did try to pressure me in to an epi before we even begun, and when I flat out refused they tried to push morphine, I just said we will see) I had the pessary at 11.30am, at 12.30pm I was sent to get lunch from the antenatal ward, whilst there I had my first contraction, it took my breath away. I got back to my room tired (and failed) to eat. I kept needing to wee, and soon realised the toilet was so comfortable At 12.55pm I asked for pain relief, she said no, I made my Mum push for it so she gave me paracetamol at 1pm. I went to the toilet again, and the pessary fell out, I just thought oh no its not gonna work now, when really it should of been oh that must be the head pushing it out I told the mw I needed to poo and couldnt go. This resulted in my trousers and knickers being whipped off, seeing the head crowning, button was pushedfor 2nd mw, deliver pack quickly got out, me moaning I was hot so needed my jumper and socks off. At 1.12pm Honey was born silently into the world.
Labour number four was not what I wanted, induction due to my risks. They broke my waters straight away, my cervix was high and hard but could break it because after previous children it doesnt close properly. After an hour or so no contractions have started so she puts the syntocin (sp) up, with out my consent. Within half an the contractions start, and after not very long my baby is in distress, she calls another mw, then a doctor, another doctor, a consultant, my consultant, all the while she has my legs open and is scratching my baby's head with an amni hook (what they use to break your waters) for thirty minutes. It is on my notes that I have been sexually abused so to do that for so long, with no consent, withn so many people around was quite distressing. In that hour I had gone from 0cm to 6/7cm, it was decided that we were to have an emergency section. The section was fine as was my recovery.
I am obviously never gonna have a home birth because I am so high risk (pre-eclampsia in all four pregnancies, a stillbirth, PROM at 28 weeks, 7 miscarriages, clotting disorders, anaemia, previosu section etc etc) but I would love to have a birth like my second or third. I would also love to feel as if I am part of this, so far all I have heard is they will make the decision closer to the time, what about me and what I want?
Obviously will do anything to make sure baby is here screaming. I just hate hospitals, hate lack of control, so this is hard for me.