i think i belong here now

[htaylor]

my and DH will have been married for a year in april, we've got a 7month old baby, we're both 23 and bitterly unhappy.

he made it quite clear last night that he is only with me because we have a baby, but is never going to leave me because I'm going to move to where i am from (100 miles away - i moved for him) i don't want to pull them apart, but I'm too young to be stuck with a man who is little short of abusive.

he's not physically abusive, but regularly tells me I'm useless, lazy, don't do anything etc.

we have been going back and forth between happy and unbelievably unhappy for months now, and last night it came to a head. i apologised for my short comings and said id make more of an effort with the things he's like me to do, but he outright denied that he is doing anything wrong.

he doesn't kiss me, or touch me anymore, he comes home from work, puts his xbox on and his headphones, i deliver him food and take the plates away.

last night after our discussions of making things better, he asked me to 'ahem' (on him - not me, and not sex) and afterwards i tried to hold his hand, he moved his hand and rolled away. he left this morning saying 'i best f-ing do something today' - our house isn't spotless but it's clean!!

i can't go on like this i don't want it and i don't deserve being treated so badly.

 

[CrazyBird]

You don't deserve to be treated that way, it sounds like he is not making any effort with you. I know you are married but you deserve better and its not fair on your lo to grow up seeing this...xx

 

[dustbunny]

Emotional abuse is still abuse, you don't need to be smacked around to be made to feel shit. Emotional abuse is terrible because it often goes unseen by others, I am sure if you had friends round, his family or your family he would put on a mask of being one happy bunny in one marvellous marriage? Someone who can not ever admit they are in the wrong has major issues within themselves and his inability to accept responsibility for failings within you relationship is causing him to place them on you.
Don't ever feel pressurised into sex or preforming sexual favours, especially when he has little respect for you. I would give him an ultimatum, does he want the relationship to work or not? If not or if only for your children then I would strongly consider walking away. You deserve so much better than someone who makes you feel worthless and useless as you are far from that... you have grown and brought 2 babies into the world. No offence but a man can't do that!!
The reason he makes you feel rubbish is because he is rubbish. He just doesn't have the balls to admit it.

 

[george83]

 

[v2007]

That is emotional abuse and it won't get better.

You need to leave before it gets worse and IMHO it will.



V xx

 

[Xuxa]

it will only get worse...get out of there!! you deserve much better.. xxx