I think I'm single! It's long.

[Moomad]

We had a row yesterday about something really petty and he brought up his issues he has with money. He called me a financial liability and told me I'm workshy and ungrateful..

I retorted, of course, telling him that he doesn't pay my bills, I've never asked him too and that he's been bringing me presents and suprises that I haven't even asked for. I've said thankyou each and everytime and I told him that buying me presents doesn't buy my silence when I'm upset about something else.. And that doesn't make me ungrateful.

Eventually, I told him to have some time to think and that he has to choose. Me and the baby, or the single life. And we can work with either. I thought that if he feels like this now, it's only going to get worse when I can't actually work, and when he's going to be supporting both of us.

He came over to discuss it today and he was so cold towards me. He told me I'm being a crazy bitch, hormonal, and should get a 'fucking job' among other insults. He didn't seem to care about patching it up, or about how he was making me feel.

So I said "Goodbye" and out he walked...


And now I'm so upset. I can't stop crying and I just wish I could rewind back to before I even met him and stop that from happening.

Someone please tell me I can do this. I'm pregnant and now I'm single. I think! It feels like I'm making the same mistakes as my mum did. I don't know if I'm strong enough to make this really work and I don't know if I can be a good parent after being dragged up by a mum of 5 who really didn't have a clue. I still love her but I really don't want to be like her. It's always been my biggest fear and now it seems like it's happening like that.

 

[maybebaby3]

i'm sorry u r in this position but u can do this! women r strong. u may still work things out so keep an open mind

 

[Moomad]

Thankyou for your comment. I've stopped crying now. I'm just so scared I'll be like my mother, maybe I'm with him for the wrong reasons anyway.

 

[Aidedhoney]

Big hugs hun, no real advice didnt want to read n run xx

He may see sense once hes cooled down

 

[nievesmama]

Huge hun.
You can do it, we all find the strength from somewhere xx

 

[littlekitten8]

You aren't your mother. Being a single mother doesn't make you like her. He may come round after some space but even if he doesn't you will be just fine. Women are strong hehe. And you have all the other single mummies for support x

 

[Moomad]

Thankyou ladies for your comments.

It's always been my fear to end up like my mother, she wasn't the best and I guess I sort of relate being a single mum, to being like my mum. But it's clear that I can't rely on this man and I'm sure I can do it alone. One of my best friends is a single mum and she's the most amazing mum I've ever known. She loves her babies so much and she's bringing them up well so I guess there's my proof that being a single mum doesn't mean that I'll be like my mum.

I don't think I should the risk with him. I mean, what happens if I give him my all and rely on him completely? He suggested I sell my car and use his because it's safer, that he rents a home for us and baby, and that he pays all the bills and takes control of finances until I can work again. But what if we fall out? That's me and the baby on our own, with nothing.

I clearly don't trust him! And the only way I can see this relationship working, is if he has no financial responisibilties towards me and that just seems so wrong.