ambertwogood
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With my birth approaching, I started to consider things that I hadn't previously. One of those decisions was to get a doula. I decided this bc, at about 23 weeks it started to become apparent that my mother wasn't going to that supportive.its not that I think she is acting like this maliciously, or is even aware of the hurt fullness, she's just a very sarcastic person. She has told me several times that she doesn't know how I'm going to get through the birth and that I will never be able to cope . Its very frustrating to say the least. Not only with the lack of support, the closer we get to my due date, I can't help but roll my eyes every time I hear my mom make yet again another sarcastic joke, all I can think about it having to listen to it while I'm in labour, and I'm not sure which will be worse.... don't get me wrong, I love my mother dearly, I want other there if she wants to be there, and I definitely don't want to hurt her, but I also want MY birth experience to be what I want and in a perfect world she would put a lid on the jokes for the duration of my labor and delivery but I know my mother, so I've tried to make the best of it. This is my so's and I'sfirst child and we both are journeying into uncharted waters and feel very lost. I decided a doula would be the answer and S O was relived and happy that I had found such a perfect solution for us both to be as comfortable as possible. I have also lucked out and not only is my doula a douka but she will also be providing professional photography for labour delivery and post free of charge! We are elated. My mother is less than so. She hasn't come right out and said this, but I can only gather from her comments and behaviour, that she isn't happy about it and possibly feels threatened. How do I make this okay? How do me and SO get what we want but also make my mother happy and secure in her role? I'm so confused. Was I wrong for getting a doula?