I think she prefers to be there more than here :(

[Laura--x]

All maisies been on about today is 'maisie go to daddys now!, Daddys coming now! Maisie see daddy now!'

I LOVE that maisie has a relationship with her dad. Id never stop her seeing him. Hes a nob, he doesnt pay me a penny for her, he only sees her saturday nights because hes too busy to have her all weekend. He always makes up excuses to bring her home early. But she loves it there.

He has a little brother 5 and a neice whos 4 and they are always there the weekend, so obviously its great fun for maisie cus shes got them round to play with all the time. I have her all week, i have to do the discipline, the boring parts aswell as the fun times.

I just feel so low at the minute. I just feel she wants to be there more than she does here . She doesnt usuallly ask for him untill i tell her shes going there, then she gets excited. But today its ALLL shes gone on about, and its just really killed me!

Im also really pissed off too. Everytime she comes home she's like ' daddy brought me this, mommy didnt buy this daddy buy this ( he always sends her home in this tracksuit he brought her and makes me send it back the weekend after ). I ALWAYS tell maisie how much me and her daddy love her and she is our best friends, and she always relates to both of us whenever she says things like that, but whenever she comes home from his its always ' daddy my best friend, not mommy nomore'

I know for a fact she wouldnt say this out of her own doing, i know hes the one saying it to her, and its just making em feel like crap!

I dont know whether to just get over it or say something to him. Its asif everytime she is down there he is drilling into her head everything he brought, then how hes her best friend ect ect and all this.

Blah i dunno. Im just waiting for the day when she tells me she dont want to stay with me no more and she wants to go stay with him!

 

[Rhio92]

Huuuuge I don't know what to say sorry, but just lots of xxxx

 

[babybambi2011]

aaw hun, i think ur completely right about him drilling it into her head. she wouldnt say that on her own accord, how could she... i would have a word with him 2bh, but it obviously depends on the relationship you to have for maisies sake. its not nice on her to come home and say all that stuff, cuz im sure she doesnt realise shes hurting you, and its definately not fair on you, cuz it seems to me he is just using maisie to get to yu and hurt you. kids can pick up anythign you say, to them or just overhearing it. when me and my ex were together, i had a phase of calling him an r-tard lol and when his 1st daughter was with us for a weekend she suddenly came out with "daddy r-tard" it was very funny at the time, but also worrying cuz id only said it a few time to him, thinking she was too busy playing with her toys to notice what id called him. but it just proves that kids can pick up anything! id just ask ur ex to mind what he says infront of her.
hope it works out hun xxx

 

[emlubu]

My girl says he wants daddy a the time... U no why... Because they only see em on a Saturday so they think to ask for them all the time... As we r there all the time! It's hard but just remember its only because they see them a limit time .. They don't really understand x

 

[Laura--x]

Thanks girls.

Thats what i mean. I know hes saying it to her for a fact. I always do things equal with her, ill always tell her that mommy and daddy love her loads, i would never want her to think that one parent loves her more than the other, but whenever she comes back from his its always to do with him. I dont know why he needs to repeatedly tell her of the things hes brought her, like he has to make sure she knows? I just dont get it. Ugh hes such a nob xx

 

[Laura--x]

My girl says he wants daddy a the time... U no why... Because they only see em on a Saturday so they think to ask for them all the time... As we r there all the time! It's hard but just remember its only because they see them a limit time .. They don't really understand x

She never usually says it, only today shes gone on about it all day, maybe its cause shes never done it before so its kinda shocked me.

Yeah i guess its like a lil sleepover/fun thing for them cus its one day a week and they just go and play and do as they please ect. I just really hope as she gets a little older she realises just how much we moms do . I feel so under pressure to make sure she has fun with me so she doesnt turn around to me one day and tell me she doesnt want to stay with me no more!

 

[emlubu]

Your story sounds like
Mine!! I try n do extra so she feels
Like its fun with
Mummy and when she is with him he says all sorts about me even tho he was the one that initially cheated but I don't say a bad word to her about him!!
How old is she? As with Ellie
She is nearly too and I say he is working or u will see him Saturday altho she doesn't really understand.

Men eh? And she does and will understand what u do for her I guess we all get to the stage of why do we even bother but just remember your bringing her up and making her what she is now xxx

 

[Laura--x]

Your story sounds like
Mine!! I try n do extra so she feels
Like its fun with
Mummy and when she is with him he says all sorts about me even tho he was the one that initially cheated but I don't say a bad word to her about him!!
How old is she? As with Ellie
She is nearly too and I say he is working or u will see him Saturday altho she doesn't really understand.

Men eh? And she does and will understand what u do for her I guess we all get to the stage of why do we even bother but just remember your bringing her up and making her what she is now xxx

She comes back saying things about you? OMG id never stand for that, the moment she comes back saying anything bad that hes said to her id be round his house causing all sorts of mayhem lol.

yeah i tell her hes working and that she'll see him soon then shes like ' yeah ill stay with mommy now and see daddy soon' then 5 mins later it was ' see daddy now!' lol hopefully shes stopped tomorrow!

Shes 2 and a half, kinda getting to the age where she tells me what she does down there so im always fishing and asking to see if theres anything hes been saying or anything lmao! x

 

[emlubu]

Lol she doesn't say if he has said anything as she can't manage that much but he has said mummy is being a twat in front of me to her!!!

 

[emlubu]

If Ellie hears anyone say daddy that sets her off...

 

[Laura--x]

omg id kill him lol.. Yeah actually we were out with my friend and her son and she said something about ging home to his daddy and thats what set her off! Fingers crossed shes fine tomorrow.. drives me crazy haha!

 

[lily2011]

Awww It seems to me he knows he only has one day a week to make an impression on her so he spends it trying to tear you down and trying to win her over with material things. BOTH my parents always did that to me growing up and part of me always resented both of them for constantly tearing the other down. Just continue to be the bigger person. In your daughters mind now, everytime with Dad equals gifts and fun times so of course there is an appeal there to a kid; but trust me, she will realize soon enough it's all smoke and mirrors! A real parent has the good times and the bad, the fun times and the boring ones. I think you're doing an amazing job for not sinking to his level

 

[Laura2919]

I havent read all the replies..

Chloe and Jaycee are like this sometimes, or when they are naughty and I put them on the naughty step then I get I want my daddy.

Do you honestly think all that will matter when Maisie is 21 and she knows her dad had to fit her into his life and her mum made all the time in the world for her. Children dont have the ability to know these things but adults do. So while now you think she prefers it there there is only ONE person who will take credit for who and what she is and thats you!

All that stuff he buys her?... What will that matter when she is older. Absolutely nothing at all...

I'm pretty sure we share the same FOB Its scary! Lol.

FOB had me on loudspeaker a while back when he was with his girlfriend and he stupidly said 'do you need anything for Chloe and Jaycee' I said 'what? did you seriously just ask, when in the nearly 3 years have you ever asked if they need something, that just leads me to believe you have company and making yourself look like a great dad which in reality you aint'

It takes a lot more than a few presents to win over anyone. Maisie is still so young to understand but she will one day and all the tracksuits, trainers and toys in the world wont make her think better of him..

 

[AppleBlossom]

I wouldn't worry hun, like you say it's not her saying it because it's what she actually thinks, it's because he's put it into her head. And I know Grace gets all excited when she goes to her dads because she only goes once a week so it's a change for her because the rest of the week she's stuck here with me which probably gets boring. Think of it this way, when Maisie is older and understands more, she'll realise that he isn't all that great after all

 

[Mally01]

I agree, like others have said, she won't be like this forever, she's only little and understands just simple things now like playing with other children over there is great fun etc. She knows and will know how much Mummy loves her and she will understand so much more about everything as she grows up and appreciates you. I'm pretty sure if she ever gets in a spot at her daddys ( falls over or he tells her off) she calls out 'I want my Mummy' but he probably doesn't tell you that. My little nephew's parents are not together and when he is at his Daddy's on occasion he calls out for Mummy and when he is at his Mummys he asks for Daddy. Chin up xx