i thought i was ok

[becky77]

I thought i was ok and starting to feel very positive about the future and being very pragmatic , i had my second early m/c in feb and have since found out i have colitis which they think is the cause, but then i went to collect my boys today from nursery and one of the mums was rubbing her bump ,i suspected last week cos she had put on weight and she did joke about 8 weeks ago that she was late , so txt her and said congrats which i totally mean , i really am happy for her, and she rang and said she was worried about telling me cos of my m/c ( she only knows about the one )she is so lovely , so why do i now feel so deflated and like i have been punched in the stomach.i feel so horrible feeling like this and just so want to be pregnant again and have a healthy pregnancy and baby.
like i said i thought i was fine , but then this .

sorry for feeling sorry for myself i know a lot of you girls are having a rougher time than me.

ok pity fest over .

xx

 

[Csunshine013]

Becky77,
I have a friend that is due in May and she wouldn't even call to see if everything went ok when we found out that the baby didn't have a heartbeat. I am glad and sad at this as I thought she was a good friend was a personal attendant at my wedding last Aug and all. I guess she didn't want to hurt my feeling, but I was hurt because she didn't say anything until a week or so had past. I know it's hard to see people that are still pregnant and that the week we lost our baby every television show I watched had something to do with a baby or being pregnant I finally had to just turn it off and find something else to do. Hope this gets better for you and you soon have one stick again.

Vickie

 

[becky77]

Thank you csunshine013 , i honestly felt like i was almost normal again , but this kinda caught me of guard, its like one step forward two back.You certainly find out who your real friends are at times like these dont you, and to be honest this girl was really just trying to be kind.
thanks for the hug.

so sorry for your loss x
If you ever need a chat pm me x

 

[toby2]

i had my second m/c in feb and thought i was ok as well-util i got stuck in a room for my sons two year review with 3 preg ladies and two new borns,totally lost it and cried for 2 hours!!
sometimes i guess it just jumps up and bites you?
sorry you hav ahd a crappy time,hope it passes again for you
x

 

[dan-o]

Becky, it happened to me too, fate seems funny like this.
I like you was fine & getting over the MC totally until I was told on mothers day my SIL is now expecting the first grandchild to the family, 4 days after my due date.
It was like one last slap in the face.

I think it will get easier with time, my remedy is to try and get pg asap, preferably before september, I don't know about you, but I can't see any other way to deal with it.

 

[Jkelmum]

 

[rachjim98]

 

[becky77]

Becky, it happened to me too, fate seems funny like this.
I like you was fine & getting over the MC totally until I was told on mothers day my SIL is now expecting the first grandchild to the family, 4 days after my due date.
It was like one last slap in the face.

I think it will get easier with time, my remedy is to try and get pg asap, preferably before september, I don't know about you, but I can't see any other way to deal with it.

Thanks dan o , its horrid the way it can floor you when you least expect it.

i agree getting pg asap is def my plan, hope you get a lovely sticky bean soon too hun.

 

[Las78]

Hun, sending you hugs. It seems to me that it hits you when you least expect it. Like you I thought I was doing ok till last week where out of the blue I spent half the night in tears longing for my baby. And most ridiculous today, find my cat is pregnant, thought I saw her tummy move so put my hand on it and sure enought felt the little kittens kicking - all I could then think about was that my little boy would've been kicking me too by now and got really upset!
Perhaps it will be easier when we get the BFPs we so want though I think there will always be times when it hurts to remember.
Hope you're doing ok

 

[surreysharon]

Very similar, i have just come home from an evening at my parents which my pregnant younger sister was also at. She is due at the end of July and i was due at the end of September but i MC and she is now 24 wks.

She went on about the size of her bump, what she has brought, her maternity pay and everything else she could cram in. I was quiet but they are totally oblivious and i think believe i have now 'gotten on with it' and so acting normal again. Now i do wanna be normal but i would also like a bit of compassion

Theres no avoiding it and so Becky i think everything we see or get told is like a kick in the stomach to us. Im just putting up a hard shell to try and get through it

Big hug and we're all here for you

x

 

[susan_1981]

Aw Becky, I didn't realise you'd had another miscarriage. I haven't been coming in here that much recently.

I know how you feel. A girl who sits behind me at work who is a good friend of mine is pregnant. She's only 10 weeks but she told me and another girl straight away (we're lunchtime buddies and used to go to the pub a couple of times a week so we would have guessed if she hadn't told us) but I heard her saying to the other girl a couple of weeks ago "Do you think I'm showing yet?" and I keep hearing her say "I feel really sick". It's horrible. I don't want to be bitter but I just can't help it. I keep thinking I should be way ahead of you and, with each period that arrives for me, the worse I get.

I hope you feel better soon xxxx