I want closure.

[Newdreemz]

5 mo. And i havent contacted FOB. He basically just ignored me and ran away after I told him about the baby.

I am trying to stay strong. I figured if he doesnt want to acknowledge me, cool. Its okay. Ill keep moving. But Im so angry ladies. I am so pissed that I made love to him with everything in me. I cannot believe we would lie in bed after amazing sex and hold each other and laugh together. We had so many good times. And yet he just ran! Like i was nothing. Like i didnt mean a thing.

I have been waiting for the day he calls at least and says Im so sorry for what I did, Im sorry for using you. And my child deserves a father. I have been waiting on this and nothing! 5mo has already went by and i got nothing. I have been running dialogue in my head about what Ill say when i finally see him. Or telling myself i should write him a letter. Or even text his phone.

How do you get closure? Am i doing the right thing not acknowledging him? I guess im angry and i want him to know how hurt i am. I know it doesnt change anything but i just want some closure.

 

[mumslilmonkey]

So sorry for you. I think the best thing you can do is just to know that you did all that you as a mother could do to get him to be a father. If he still dosent want to come around, try not to beat yourself up about it. Atleast you did all you could do to try. I hope he comes around for you and your baby.
Goodluck. PM me if you need to talk.

 

[Newdreemz]

thank you...Last night was hard. I get so angry at him and myself that I just wanna call him and ask him why. I guess Im in the next stage of my pain. Anger! I thought i would have accepted it by now but its still a fresh wound. I hope today is better. I woke up depressed though so it seems like its gonna be a long day. Just feel so alone.

 

[mumslilmonkey]

Wel your not alone. If you ever need someone to talk to i am here for you!
I know it is sooo hard to get over but try not to get upset and to stressed. Its not good for you and you baby.
Take care hun, and like i said if you need to talk PM me!

 

[teal]

huge hugs There isn't anything else you can do. I know it's hard but you can't force him to be a father. You and your LO deserve so much better.

My ex broke up with me the day I told him I was pregnant and has cut all contact. I did keep my old mobile number active and my old email account open incase he wanted to contact me. Part of me really thought he would have, but he hasn't. I tried to send him an email after I had my LO but it was never delivered.

You're definitely not alone xxxx

 

[Newdreemz]

Wel your not alone. If you ever need someone to talk to i am here for you!
I know it is sooo hard to get over but try not to get upset and to stressed. Its not good for you and you baby.
Take care hun, and like i said if you need to talk PM me!

Alright. Thank you. Ill keep that in mind.

 

[Desi's_lost]

sometimes the best closure is just to remember that you have this amazing baby and hes missing on everything. my fob and i were engaged and ttc and he still ran. I look at it this way, more baby love to myself. one way or another they will get what they deserve. be it bad karma or waking up one day and realizing what they lost.

 

[billy2mm]

i havent got closure and im 2 years down the line.

i wont ever get it coz my ex is a compulsive liar who lied about everything in out relationship and marriage. he even lied that his mother lost his little sister to SIDS at 3 months old thats how sick and twisted he is!! his mother has never been pregnant since having him.

i think you may have to draw a line under it when you are ready as hard as that will be. sometimes we dont ever find out what we need to.
i just had to make peace with myself that i wont get closure and even if i did i would always question whether or not it was the truth and that would drive me more crazy than i was.

 

[Newdreemz]

i havent got closure and im 2 years down the line.

i wont ever get it coz my ex is a compulsive liar who lied about everything in out relationship and marriage. he even lied that his mother lost his little sister to SIDS at 3 months old thats how sick and twisted he is!! his mother has never been pregnant since having him.

i think you may have to draw a line under it when you are ready as hard as that will be. sometimes we dont ever find out what we need to.
i just had to make peace with myself that i wont get closure and even if i did i would always question whether or not it was the truth and that would drive me more crazy than i was.

Wow. I may have to do that. And believe me, Im trying to accept that this is the way it is. Just my stupid feelings wont agree with my brain all the time. I just thought five months down the road Id be stronger and wouldnt have him on my mind as much but it feels like yesterday. They say time heals wound but i dont know if thats true anymore. Thanks for sharing.