I was trying so hard to be positive until my so called mate jst put the frighteners

[emmajayne]

I was trying so hard to be positive until my so called mate jst put the frighteners on me!

Its 5 weeks since i had my first and last scan and saw the heart beating away. Its was the consultan who scanned me. he didnt tell me anything was wrong.

My next scan is next Tues for my nuchual scan.

My so called mate today said she had her scan and was told the heart beat was very slow and the week later it had stopped and has told me not to get my hopes up for next week. I already knew about her loss and its awful i shud know. but why did she have to be like that?

The dr wud have said if hb was slow? I thought as long as was strong hb seen on scan then your chances of mc drops?

Tuesday seems so long away now

 

[blondee]

Hi Emmajayne,

I think she must be really hurting and lashing out. Please try not to take her comments to heart, i'm sure if she was thinking straight she wouldn't have said something like that.

Keep positive about tuesday. I think you are exactly right - if your bubba had a weak HB they would have told you. I hope your scan goes really well and that you have a wonderful experience!

M X

 

[TripleB]

emmajayne, you musn't let this get to you. Its awful for your friend but she obviously wasn't thinking when she said this to you. There is no reason to think this might happen to you - especially as you've seen a good heartbeat already (I've also heard your chance of MC drops after this). Keep your chin up hun, a little PMA goes a long way. Hope all goes well next Tuesday. xxx

 

[emmajayne]

Thank you both. We had these mc same time last yr well same time as my first. I think her oh wont let her try again cause he never wanted to anyway and so think she jealous.

Im thinking third time lucky

 

[sue247]

That wasn't very nice for your friend to say that, after having a MC you are paranoid and worried anyway and it really does not take much to start you worrying even more. (I had a MMC in December and am almost 14 weeks now). She was obviously lashing out as she is hurting. Hopefully that was a one off and she won't continue to lash out like that! Try to stay positive, you have seen a hb and the chances are good that your baby is fine.

 

[zoe87]

That was a bit harsh of your friend.! Maybe she didnt think before she spoke.
Ive had 2 late 1st tri losses and im so scared again this time. I had an early scan to and was told once u have seen a viable heartbeat mc rate drops to 5%.
Chin up and try not to worry

 

[rainbows_x]

Aww I'm sorry she upset you hun.

At my first scan at 5+4 she didn't even have a HB visible but they didn't even say anything about it as my HCG was going up. Needless to say everything went fine and I am now 25 weeks, I am sure you will be fine hun x

 

[emmajayne]

Awh thank you. chin up

 

[pinkgem100]

What your friend said was a bit harsh, but is she has had a loss maybe she is just upset, but still shouldnt have said it to you. I am sure if the hb was slow then you would have been told. Try and stay positive.

 

[kmac1975]

It is sad when our friends aren't as supportive as we would like them to be but try to remember how you felt after your losses. I have been trying just now but I can't remember, it was all a blur. So I am sure I said and did some things that may have hurt others, not intentionally but....I am not excusing your friend but nobodies perfect.

I wish you every luck with your baby and hope your next scan goes as well as your first!

 

[amygwen]

I can't believe she would say something like that, that's really insensitive. I can't imagine even after suffering a loss trying to scare a pregnant woman like that. Don't listen to her and just stay optimstic, everything will be fine.

 

[MadamRose]

Aww bless you hun. Ignore her and continue with the positive attitude. once you have seen the heartbeat once no matter how early your chances are miscarraige are reduced (i was told this at my early scan at 6weeks). Being positive will only have good effects and your baby and stop it stressing. If you stress then your baby will stress
Hope everything goes perfectly

 

[KatienSam]

aww thats not nice, she shouldnt have said anything at all.

Chance of miscarriage after seeing a viable heartbeat does drop. but they often dont tell you the rate early on. I had a bad experience with my last miscarriage because of heartbeat etc so i would always say - go by your mother's intuition, its normally right. If you felt fine up until she said that then it will almost certainly be ok

 

[emmajayne]

Thank you every one for your comments.

I have been to ante natal today but was supposed to jst be for diabetic check but i said to obs dr i had gone so scared that something had gone wrong and there wud be no baby, she went and got the portable scanner and i saw a proper baby kicking its legs waving its arms doing summersaults and a heart beat most amazing. Cant wait for proper scan now tues and to get photo of my baby.

Does this mean i am really good chance of my baby now ? xx

 

[MadamRose]

Yes you have a really good chance. glad you got to see a little peek at you baby