I was wondering....

[lou_w34]

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[tinkabells]

I just registered my little girl, and they leave the fathers details blank, they dont put unknown on it xxx

 

[KaeRit21]

i think they just leave it blank hun x x

 

[purpledahlia]

yep they leave it blank! xx

 

[xxannxx]

Unless you are married you can only register the fathers name if he is there, so when i went to register my LO they just asked if i was married or if it was a 'mother only' registration, which was good because had been bit worried about what i would say if they asked about father. My LO cert just has a blank space where fathers name would be.

 

[lou_w34]

Ohhh thankyous =)
Its bad enough having to say unknown, even if you know who they are, so having it written down wouldnt have been very nice lol

 

[teal]

I'm glad you asked this - I was wondering the same thing x

 

[purpledahlia]

yeah wouldnt be nice at all if they wrote that on the actual cert!!

 

[lou_w34]

I know! I couldnt bare to imagine her asking for her birth cert for one reason or another when shes older and it saying unknown, then having to explain why, at least if he proves himself, he can go on it at a later date....Not very likely that he will though

 

[purpledahlia]

thats my plan... proove yourself then well talk about it, i hope he doesnt flip when i tell him tho. Like say something like ''well is she mine or not''.. ass.

 

[lou_w34]

Sounds like a typical male thing to say, so i expect he will. Are you telling him after youve done the birth cert that he's not on it? or letting him no before hand? Im thinking im just gunna let him no after, will save hassel that way lol

 

[purpledahlia]

I dunno... im gonna wait it out and see if he mentions it.. im hoping he just doesnt know about it!!

 

[tinkabells]

Mne doesnt even know she is here, he will hear from the csa xxx

 

[purpledahlia]

The FOB of baby actually wants to be at birth and come up and visit in a few weeks and be in her life, so maybe i shouldnt be so hard on him if hes gonna at least attempt to try. We'll see how those attempts go tho!

 

[lou_w34]

Yeah i spose he does deserve that chance, Just be cautious, and try not to get your hopes up about it, that way if the worse does happen, you wont feel so bad =)

 

[tinkabells]

Yeah least his trying thats some good sign xxx

 

[purpledahlia]

yeah, Ill give him that. BUT i wont get my hopes up. He told me he was curious to see my new FB photos and bump photos so he asked his friend to show him, (i have his friend but not him) he showed him, and he was very honest with me and told me he had seent hem the other day, and then said i still look cute and look good pregnant etc... So i am not gonna take these kinds of compliments from him because he could just be playing a game. i dont know exactly what his adjenda is..

 

[lou_w34]

Just take everything he says/does with a pinch of salt untill you feel completley comfortable with him, that way your always being cautious =)

 

[woadie]

tinkabells, when did you last hear from FOB and what did he say? I hope you don't mind me asking... I'm in the same boat I think, and it's good to know others have been there before me... I'm 10 weeks tomorrow, I haven't heard from FOB since he said he would never be in touch again at 5 weeks, and I know one day I will have to let him know via the CSA which is what I want, how I want it... I just worry he'll be in touch before that.... arrgghhh....

 

[purpledahlia]

he might be, the FOB didnt get in touch with me till i was around 20 weeks.. by then it had sunk in, and still has taken a further 7 for him to actually say he wants to come up etc..