calm81
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Hey everyone. My previous pregnancy 3 years ago, my in-laws overwhelmed me, big time. I understand family wanting to visit the baby when it's born but they like to stay too long and hover in my face knowing how exhausted I was and just felt blah. I mean, I'm laying in the hospital bed in some god awful gown, exposed from behind (tie strings in the back to keep gown closed) having to slowly move to the bathroom with a heavy bleed, stitches etc. just not looking or feeling my best. Offering their advice that is not needed (currently pregnant with third baby) and I feel like I can't fully relax to recover.
Not only are they keeping me from resting but throughout the night the nurses have to keep waking me up to check my vitals, etc.
On top of that, when we took baby home the last pregnancy, my husbands mother was sitting at our house waiting for us with her friend whom I've never met that was wanting to meet the baby. First of all, who said you could go into my home with a friend of yours that I never met before, and second knowing it's the first moment home with the baby is rude, thirdly, shouldn't my family and friends meet my baby BEFORE your friend that I've never seen or heard of that's wanting to hold MY BABY. I mean, I'm sore, heavy bleeding, needing to use warm water bottles to clean myself after I use the restroom because of the stitches down there and just wanting to relax on the couch and stare at my beautiful new baby and bond while I recover and entertaining a stranger is last on my list.
I feel like they're socially stuck on stupid. My parents and siblings showed up at the hospital did their "ooohs and awwwes" gave me a cute teddy bear and balloons and said call us when you're ready for visitors and went home. I know I may sound bratty but if any of you have read previous post I've made regarding my in-laws, you'll understand why I'm putting up some conditions this time around.
I'm doing all the work for 9 months building this incredible life while getting big, uncomfortable and impatiently waiting for the days to go by for her beautiful arrival, they can AT LEAST wait patiently for me to heal from my delivery before ambushing me. My husband was of no help at all, he encouraged me to do meet and greet visits right after our son was born not caring that I was walking like a snail because my stitches were still healing 2-3 DAYS after giving birth.
This time around I just want my parents and his parents to pop in maybe a few hours after I deliver to peek at baby and leave and wait for our phone call to set up a nice visit at our home. Am I being the world's biggest brat?
Not only are they keeping me from resting but throughout the night the nurses have to keep waking me up to check my vitals, etc.
On top of that, when we took baby home the last pregnancy, my husbands mother was sitting at our house waiting for us with her friend whom I've never met that was wanting to meet the baby. First of all, who said you could go into my home with a friend of yours that I never met before, and second knowing it's the first moment home with the baby is rude, thirdly, shouldn't my family and friends meet my baby BEFORE your friend that I've never seen or heard of that's wanting to hold MY BABY. I mean, I'm sore, heavy bleeding, needing to use warm water bottles to clean myself after I use the restroom because of the stitches down there and just wanting to relax on the couch and stare at my beautiful new baby and bond while I recover and entertaining a stranger is last on my list.
I feel like they're socially stuck on stupid. My parents and siblings showed up at the hospital did their "ooohs and awwwes" gave me a cute teddy bear and balloons and said call us when you're ready for visitors and went home. I know I may sound bratty but if any of you have read previous post I've made regarding my in-laws, you'll understand why I'm putting up some conditions this time around.
I'm doing all the work for 9 months building this incredible life while getting big, uncomfortable and impatiently waiting for the days to go by for her beautiful arrival, they can AT LEAST wait patiently for me to heal from my delivery before ambushing me. My husband was of no help at all, he encouraged me to do meet and greet visits right after our son was born not caring that I was walking like a snail because my stitches were still healing 2-3 DAYS after giving birth.
This time around I just want my parents and his parents to pop in maybe a few hours after I deliver to peek at baby and leave and wait for our phone call to set up a nice visit at our home. Am I being the world's biggest brat?