i'm back :(

[Dopeyjopey]

I just asked OH to leave. He cheated and i forgave him, then he snooped around my facebook and i forgave him. He threw a pillow at me because i woke him up and i chucked him out.

I feel a bit numb. He's done some awful things to me but i can't help loving him. Kinda wishing i hadn't done it now

 

[angelpkj]

is he FOB aswel
its hard for the feelings to just go
it should be simple-we should get treated like crap and be able to walk away but it never is for some stupid reason we want to give them another chance,we feel sorry for them and think they didnt mean it

we can only learn from time if we made the right choice

 

[Dopeyjopey]

Yeah. We broke up while i was pregnant and got back together in november-ish. You summed up exactly how i feel. I hope that feeling goes.

 

[Bambers]

You need to do the To Dump or Not Dump list.

Write two lists, one of his good points the other of his bad points. Be brutally honest as you write them - not emotional or badtempered.

When you have finished the list, it will indicate to you whether or not you did the right thing. x

 

[Dopeyjopey]

I think it's too late for that. I have been texting him to say i wish i could take it back and that he could forgive me but he just isn't replying or answering my calls. I still don't know what i feel, i'm a mess. Ah shit. What have i done

 

[Hotbump]

well if he doesnt reply is his loss hun. Dont feel bad imo the reason that he cheated was enough to kick him out. i really dont know what to say but

 

[Bambers]

Give him a few hours to cool down...don't text him or call him...he is annoyed at the minute and the more you contact him the more annoyed he will get. Let him get back in touch with you first...if he really has being a bit of a git...it's time to stop laying down and taking it. You're worth so much more. x x

 

[Lillismommy]

You said that he has done some pretty crappy things to you in the past, cheating being one of them.

You should have a little more self worth than this. He is treating you badly, yet you are the one sending him a text saying you made a mistake for kicking him out?

Do you not deserve to be treated well? Well, you do. You should stand up for yourself and demand a man that will treat you right instead of worrying about how he feels because you kicked him out for treating you like crap.

If he loves you, he will do anything to get you back. But do not take him back unless you think he even deserves to be with you.

 

[Srrme]

If he's ignoring you over THAT, I would ignore him right back, or at the very least, don't contact him, let him contact you.

 

[Dopeyjopey]

Thanks everyone. He started trying to get in touch once i started ignoring him. Going to have a chat with him today, not going to take him back until he worships the ground i walk on. You're all right, i do deserve better!

 

[jen1604]

hope the chat goes well, stand your ground honey xx