Im going to sound really pathetic...

[lou_w34]

But i couldnt care less right now....

I just found out that FOB is living with his GF of like 5 months....
We were together for nearly 3 years and he never made that commitment to me, we were in the process of looking for a flat when i found out i was pregnant and he changed his mind and told me to go home to my parents and got a place by himself.

Why is he so nice to her?? I dont get it!
I was so good to him, i did his washing, cleaned his flat, i did his uni work, i even wrote his letter of appeal when he was found to be cheating in a exam, i did everything for him and yet he still cheated on me and treated me like shit, he never took me out, in the time we were together we went out three times, i didnt even care if i had to pay (which i did two of the times) i just wanted to do something/anything, but he said to me himself that his friends were more important than me.

I keep dreaming that we get back together even though i dont want this ever....AT ALL!!!

And now im afraid that i will have to let LO stay at his... with her playing mummy, even though i know for a fact she made him choose between her or LO and he picked her. W ehavent heard from him since.

Im fed up of being alone now, i love being a single mummy, im just lonely and want a hug. Id go give LO a snuggle but shes asleep and it took me forever to get her to go down so i darnt wake her up lol

Why did he do this to us? Why were we not good enough, but she is??

Sorry, this is long and pointless (not to mention my second miserable post of the day), but im fed up. I want to move abroad where its nice and sunny and me a LO can live on the beach lol

xxx

 

[billy2mm]

i know how you feel hun!

i left my ex when he was cheating on me. a few weeks later i found out that they had gotten engaged and he was living with her when he was on leave and they had a hot tub and all manner of luxuries while i was stuck in a council house scraping by on next to nothing with no one (my family but they dont count hehe)

18 months down the line i still havent had a bf nor do i want one. yes i am lonely and i need a hug and a chat and would love nothing better than having someone to cuddle up with with a bottle of wine and a soppy film but when i think of all the hassle that comes along with a bf i wonder what the point really is? then the next day im feeling like yu and wondering why i wasnt good enough and will i ever find anyone to take me and my boys on?

i cheered up so much when i found out that he cheated on her and she booted him out!!!

chances are that he will do exactly the same to her that he did to you. the difference is that you were brave enough to carry on and live life without his coz you dont need him!!!

what goes around comes around and you just have to bide your time and then you will be the one with the loving stable relationship with your LO and he will be all alone realising it wasnt worth it and he has noone left!

 

[Aidedhoney]

Hugs hun agree with whats said above, you were too good for him!!

Hes on the whole rebound thing, yeah it hurts to find out that hes moved on but you have your cutie pie what does he have???? NOTHING LOL

Hugs xxxxx

 

[bloodbinds]

Big hugs hun

That is really horrible xxx

 

[Linz88]

Aww

 

[purpledahlia]

big

It sounds like rebound, and if it isnt, then he has lernt from the way he treated you, its so SO Effing annoying when they *turn into better people* and *learn from their mistakes* with someone else... why not learn with you/us!! totally know how you feel.

just PM me anytime,

 

[suzanne108]

Awwww Lou

I agree with whoever said you are wayyyyyyyy too good for him.

She must be a horrible person to make someone choose between her and his daughter. So they deserve each other because they're both horrible!

I'm here if ever you want to chat xxx

 

[lou_w34]

Thanks everyone
I was having a woe is me moment, but im over it now thankgod! It helps to read everyones lovely replies

It is so annoying that 'he's a better person' now.... personally i dont buy it, otherwise he would be here for his lo, not shacked up with someone who likes like a reject from the gremlins

Too right he has nothing! And he will always have nothing! Thankgod i have my LO who needs hugs and kisses of any man when you can have snuggles and slobbery kisses of your bubbas

xxx

 

[Mindy_mini]

Why is he so nice to her?? I dont get it!

without causing offence, the answer to this is she propebly isnt such a push over so he needs to be nicer to her to get her to do his dirty work.

He sounds a pr*ck who wont acheive any thing in life without someone else doing it for him and you and LO are better off without that kind of weight around your necks.

Hold your head up high and be greatful you dont have to look after a second child (him) when your priority is you and LO.

You will meet a real man when the time is right, he will be able to look after himself and contribute towards the home environment in terms of washing, ironing etc and will be able to motivate himself enough to do his own work. He will also be able to offer you emotional support in raising your LO and offer your LO stability and continuity.

Keep smiling

 

[lou_w34]

Why is he so nice to her?? I dont get it!

without causing offence, the answer to this is she propebly isnt such a push over so he needs to be nicer to her to get her to do his dirty work.

He sounds a pr*ck who wont acheive any thing in life without someone else doing it for him and you and LO are better off without that kind of weight around your necks.

Hold your head up high and be greatful you dont have to look after a second child (him) when your priority is you and LO.

You will meet a real man when the time is right, he will be able to look after himself and contribute towards the home environment in terms of washing, ironing etc and will be able to motivate himself enough to do his own work. He will also be able to offer you emotional support in raising your LO and offer your LO stability and continuity.

Keep smiling

No offence caused

When i re-read it, i wondered if i had mug stamped across my head lol

xx

 

[suzanne108]

You're not a mug....just toooooo nice not a bad trait to have xx

 

[sweetlullaby]

Agreed not a mug!! The majority of us are too nice Lets turn nasty!! lol

 

[expecting09]

I keep dreaming that we get back together even though i dont want this ever....AT ALL!!!

I'm exactly the same!!! haha

Agree with everyone else, your definatly too good for him and it most probably is a rebound, bet it wont last long!! xx