Firestar
Pregnant with first :)
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Found out on 2nd January that I'm having a boy. I'm secretly over the moon (would have been equally happy with a girl, but if pushed to make a choice, a son was my preference).
This is the first grandchild for all four grandparents - both grandads are delighted, and I believed my boyfriends mum when she said yesterday that a girl would have been nice on one hand (she had 3 sons, no daughter), but she honestly adores the idea of a grandson as boys are great fun (I would agree).
My mum........ she is overjoyed to finally have a long awaited grandchild on the way, but ever since I told her I'm pregnant, she has hinted that, push come to shove, she'd love a granddaughter. She IS delighted that above all, the 20 week scan revealed that everything appears fine, however I know my mum inside out, and I know that she feels slightly disappointed that she will have a grandson rather than a granddaughter.
Matters haven't been helped in that yesterday she learned that the fiancee of a colleague of hers who is due the day before me and will be in the same hospital will be having a daughter, and I could pick up on slight undercurrents last night on the phone of "they got a girl, why didn't I?"
I guess my big worry is that if either my brother or myself have a daughter in the future she will subconsciously give off favoritism vibes/cues. I have no doubt she will adore my son, but I worry if she subsequently gets the granddaughter she is desperate for that she will give something away around preference.
This is the first grandchild for all four grandparents - both grandads are delighted, and I believed my boyfriends mum when she said yesterday that a girl would have been nice on one hand (she had 3 sons, no daughter), but she honestly adores the idea of a grandson as boys are great fun (I would agree).
My mum........ she is overjoyed to finally have a long awaited grandchild on the way, but ever since I told her I'm pregnant, she has hinted that, push come to shove, she'd love a granddaughter. She IS delighted that above all, the 20 week scan revealed that everything appears fine, however I know my mum inside out, and I know that she feels slightly disappointed that she will have a grandson rather than a granddaughter.
Matters haven't been helped in that yesterday she learned that the fiancee of a colleague of hers who is due the day before me and will be in the same hospital will be having a daughter, and I could pick up on slight undercurrents last night on the phone of "they got a girl, why didn't I?"
I guess my big worry is that if either my brother or myself have a daughter in the future she will subconsciously give off favoritism vibes/cues. I have no doubt she will adore my son, but I worry if she subsequently gets the granddaughter she is desperate for that she will give something away around preference.