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Little back-story, I met my soon to be EX-OH about 2 yrs ago, he drained me and my bank account for those yrs until recently when he finally landed a VERY good job. When we were together he told me he couldn't have any more kids, in fact would get VERY mad about it if I would bring it up asking if he was sure. At 41 yrs old and having already raised 2 children on my own I didn't want to be a single mother again. Well, obviously, he either lied or it's a miracle and I'm pregnant. When I found out, I had already broken up with him and kicked him out of my house for being emotionally abusive, having no job & laying around on his a$$ all day playing the dating game on the dam computer. Anyway I told him (which initially I wasn't even going to do) that I was pregnant and the baby was his. He asked me to marry him and said he was so happy, blah blah blah. I allowed him to move back in, and it hasn't even been 4 months and already major problems & one kick out in between because he was emotionally cheating on me with some skank he 'virtually met' on the internet.
He has never been to not ONE doctor's appointment with me and whenever he gets angry due to him not getting his way on something he uses the baby as ammunition saying crap like "if you don't do XYZ I'll not have anything to do with either one of you, let's the courts sort it out but I won't be in yours or her life". The straw that broke my back was last night after again trying to reason with him to pay 1/2 (well 42%) of the household bills & stop smoking inside, he said he was leaving & that he wasn't signing the birth certificate unless I gave the baby his last name...THEN he texts.. 'that's IF and a big IF she's even mine'.
Mind you, I have been very lonely, sad & upset because he spends ZERO time with me, he's glued to his phone 24/7 (probably more disillusioned internet ho's), he never talks to me, shows me NO affection & doesn't give a shit about anything to do with OUR child. I felt this last slap in the face was just too too much for me to handle any longer. I told him good riddance & I was tired of trying to turn a dog into a husband and a bunch of other choice phrases well placed to hurt him just as bad as he has hurt me (although he really probably don't even give a sh*t).
90% of our entire relationship is "Text" or "email" based and HE EFFING LIVES WITH ME! Whenever it was time for him to get his D!CK wet he would lay on his lazy back and expect me to get him off. I faked it EVERY time, he is NOT Mr. suave under the sheets, but I lied and faked it to MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE A MAN. He's extremely selfish. I'm so over it.
Something inside of me has snapped and I just cannot continue to let this man ruin me, walk all over me, ignore me & use the hell out of me any longer.
He's a manipulative a-hole.
Anyway, he's in for the shock of his life when he finds out what he's going to end up paying in child support, and he could have had it made if he would have been a man and stepped up to his responsibility and treated me like the GOOD WOMAN I am. And if he don't want to play an active role in his daughters life, that's on HIM I certainly won't make any excuses for him and I dam sure will not accept the blame EVER again.
Looks like I'm free to join this forum now
Little back-story, I met my soon to be EX-OH about 2 yrs ago, he drained me and my bank account for those yrs until recently when he finally landed a VERY good job. When we were together he told me he couldn't have any more kids, in fact would get VERY mad about it if I would bring it up asking if he was sure. At 41 yrs old and having already raised 2 children on my own I didn't want to be a single mother again. Well, obviously, he either lied or it's a miracle and I'm pregnant. When I found out, I had already broken up with him and kicked him out of my house for being emotionally abusive, having no job & laying around on his a$$ all day playing the dating game on the dam computer. Anyway I told him (which initially I wasn't even going to do) that I was pregnant and the baby was his. He asked me to marry him and said he was so happy, blah blah blah. I allowed him to move back in, and it hasn't even been 4 months and already major problems & one kick out in between because he was emotionally cheating on me with some skank he 'virtually met' on the internet.
He has never been to not ONE doctor's appointment with me and whenever he gets angry due to him not getting his way on something he uses the baby as ammunition saying crap like "if you don't do XYZ I'll not have anything to do with either one of you, let's the courts sort it out but I won't be in yours or her life". The straw that broke my back was last night after again trying to reason with him to pay 1/2 (well 42%) of the household bills & stop smoking inside, he said he was leaving & that he wasn't signing the birth certificate unless I gave the baby his last name...THEN he texts.. 'that's IF and a big IF she's even mine'.
Mind you, I have been very lonely, sad & upset because he spends ZERO time with me, he's glued to his phone 24/7 (probably more disillusioned internet ho's), he never talks to me, shows me NO affection & doesn't give a shit about anything to do with OUR child. I felt this last slap in the face was just too too much for me to handle any longer. I told him good riddance & I was tired of trying to turn a dog into a husband and a bunch of other choice phrases well placed to hurt him just as bad as he has hurt me (although he really probably don't even give a sh*t).
90% of our entire relationship is "Text" or "email" based and HE EFFING LIVES WITH ME! Whenever it was time for him to get his D!CK wet he would lay on his lazy back and expect me to get him off. I faked it EVERY time, he is NOT Mr. suave under the sheets, but I lied and faked it to MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE A MAN. He's extremely selfish. I'm so over it.
Something inside of me has snapped and I just cannot continue to let this man ruin me, walk all over me, ignore me & use the hell out of me any longer.
He's a manipulative a-hole.
Anyway, he's in for the shock of his life when he finds out what he's going to end up paying in child support, and he could have had it made if he would have been a man and stepped up to his responsibility and treated me like the GOOD WOMAN I am. And if he don't want to play an active role in his daughters life, that's on HIM I certainly won't make any excuses for him and I dam sure will not accept the blame EVER again.
