Im new here

[moomin_troll]

Well from monday i will officaly be a single mum. I finaly blew tonight n tols oh it was over.

I wanted to talk about how to do this so its best for Zane he just got in my face n shouted and made threats.

We are in army housing as ex is in the army so i get 3 months to leave and hes trying to kick me out but ive put my foot down, i wont leave n if he trys to make me i will call the police.

Im scared of being a single mum as growing up i saw how hard it was for my mum, i dont work as i had to leave my job cuz we had to move for him so i have no money i have no idea what to do or if the council will house me.

God i hate men

 

[ani]

So sorry to hear that things had to go this way. But just stay strong and believe in what you know is best. You are the one who really knows best!

I'm in a very similar situation too, decided to make the big move, still living together but divorce papers sitting here waiting to be filled and will be moving out with LO in a month or so.

PM me if you want to rant or just need some support from someone going through the same thing!

 

[moomin_troll]

its nto easy with such a young baby is it, i have no idea what to do for the best.

the ex wants to stay living together and see what happens, hes in the amry so think it will all be over and done with when he gets posted elsewhere.

good luck in what ur doing and like wise if u need a rant or a chat pm me x

 

[Laura--x]

Aw hun you deserve so much better than him, he was an arse!

You will do just fine on your own, sure it's going to be hard work but your such a good mum you will manage and Zane will be so much better off having one loving parent rather than 2 who bickered and fought all the time.

Have you got family/friends around to help when you need? x

 

[moomin_troll]

well today i told my mum what was going on and she cried and said she didnt want to see me without tom, shes always on his side hahah but yeah they will help me.

zanes at my mums tonight so its just me n tom, we have spoken but im just not sure anymore how many more times can we fall out.

the falling out even upset zane today even tho we didnt fight infront of him, he knew something wasnt right.

tom n my mum want us to try counciling ive told them both i will think about it.

thanks laura ur a darling x

 

[Laura--x]

Do you want the relationship to work or have you got to the point where you would just prefer to be on your own now?

Councilling will only work if you still want to be with him and still love him. Have you had a real good talk with him? Told him everything? xx

 

[alice&bump]

so sorry to hear this hun the council will house you as you have LO and will technically be homeless (sorry i know it sounds horrible). not sure if they'll do it in the area you're in now tho, cos they say you've got to have a connection to the area. have you thought about private renting? you'll get your rent and that paid, and you get a nice house and can choose what area its in. hope you're ok xxxx

 

[moomin_troll]

Ive told him everything time and time again, i do love him but i dont have the energy to work this hard at keeping us together but i will try the counciling only for zanes sake

 

[moomin_troll]

so sorry to hear this hun the council will house you as you have LO and will technically be homeless (sorry i know it sounds horrible). not sure if they'll do it in the area you're in now tho, cos they say you've got to have a connection to the area. have you thought about private renting? you'll get your rent and that paid, and you get a nice house and can choose what area its in. hope you're ok xxxx

im on the councli list in the area i come from which isnt far away so ile be calling them on monday, altho the army arent makin me homeless so not sure they will help straight away.

i dont no much about private renting while not im employment, i dont have anyone to co sign and not sure how id get the admin fees together.

ile see what the army will be doing regarding my housing and then call council and afew months down the line once im settled in a job i might look to private rent so i can choose the area i want.

thanks for the advice

 

[alice&bump]

you can get things to cover the cost of the deposit and stuff, if you have a look at the cab site there's loads of info on there xx

 

[taperjeangirl]

Oh god, sorry I have only just seen this, hope you are ok? Did you 2 manage to sort anything out?

It must be a full moon or something cos men are all wankers at the moment (well in my eyes they are!)

 

[moomin_troll]

we are still living together and because of zane im going to try counciling, even tho i wudnt stop him seeing his dad it will be hard and not offten as hes in the army.

men are bloody wankers lol but least we got our babies from them

 

[taperjeangirl]

This is true, Daisys Daddy wants us to go to councilling, I got a text this morning about it, he has also said he is going to the doctors to see about his anger issues.

I really dont think that I could let him back into my life though after the other night.

I hope you 2 can sort something out,

 

[moomin_troll]

after what he did i dont blame u, if tom ever scared zane id kill him.

i think ur ex needs to go counciling himself first before he even asks u to join him.

i hope things work out for u aswel what ever that might be for u x

 

[taperjeangirl]

This is it, Maybe if it was just me he was shouting in front of the other night but he terrified Daisy and that just isnt on.

xx