18singlemom2b
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i just read some of the threads on here and i just want to say, i finally feel like i have found what i came to this forum for. sure, second trimester, teen pregnancy, they are all helpful but a group of strong, single women is what i've truly needed all along.
i'll explain my story without trying to drag it on forever.
i am 17wks pregnant. met FOB when he was in a relationship with someone else, we worked together and got to know each other as close friends in the beginning. from the beginning he told me of his unhappiness w his current relationship and it got to a point where he told me they were breaking up and it was best for both of them. he went as far as to show me text msgs proving that things between them were off, etc. there had always been strange things that rubbed me the wrong way, there were warning signs of him hiding things but he was so genius at explaining his way out of everything and turning things around on me. we were together 6 months when we started TTC. he already has a 6 yr old daughter from a 1 night stand that he has always taken care of and been close with and said that he wanted me to make him a father a second time. he told me he wanted to pay for me to go back to college, that he wanted me to move into his house, and that the day i got pregnant he would buy me a ring. it took a couple months, and there were nights i would cry to him about worrying that i wouldn't be able to get pregnant as the doctor told me i may have trouble. i finally did get pregnant and i couldn't explain the shock, i couldn't believe that my time had come and how wonderful this was going to be for us both, and the start of something so amazing between us, a wonderful life together. he ignored me for a couple days after i told him the news, took off to the cottage and wouldn't answer my calls. when he came back the truth came out about a whole bunch of things he had been lying about, unfinished business with his ex, that she considered them to still be on the verge of working things out, lying about financial things, etc etc. he demanded that i have an abortion, said he never wanted this child, and wasn't ready. he is fourty fricken years old btw. he said that he only told me that he wanted me to get pregnant those 100 times that he did because he knew it was what i wanted to hear and didn't think i could actually get pregnant. he offered me ten grand to have an abortion, even though i doubt he even had the money in the first place. of course, i said no. a few weeks later he then told me he wanted to try and work things out and was thinking we should be a family and possibly get married. then a few weeks later he changed his mind again, basically it's just been complete bullshit from the start. he has stood back and watched me, an 18 year old girl who isn't currently working much and living off a lot of savings buy everything for the baby. the crib, tons of clothing, go to all my appointments by myself, ultrasounds, etc. he has driven me to appointments a couple times and then leaving to say, go pick up his 'ex' from work or something like that. for the past few weeks he has said that if the child truly is his that he will be there for the child. he tried to tell me he will only give me 200 a month for the child, and i said it had to atleast be 300. every day he whines about the fact that he has to pay 300 measly dollars for this child. he refuses to tell his family or his ex about the baby. he still says that i have ruined his life and complicated everything. well sorry i got in the way of all your bullshit there buddy. the latest thing he told me is that he is back living with his ex and is going to try and work things out apparently, he keeps denying his child to her. she hates me and has made it very clear that she won't allow the child to spend nights at her house or what not, that's fine with me wouldn't want her touching my child anyways to be quite honest. he thinks it will be perfectly fine is he just drops in once and a while to see the baby and keep it from his family and her and that i should be perfectly okay with that. today over text message he admitted to me that he has been sleeping with us both at the same time basically the whole time i was with him. or at the very least she was s&cking his dick. sorry to be graphic. i have lost all my friends since getting pregnant, they are all to busy carrying on to even give me a call and ask how i'm doing. my family lives an hour away. i'm working from home right now so little social interaction at all. he was basically all i had left, and i think that i should just stop talking to him since it's getting worse and worse. we have not been TOGETHER since i found out i was pregnant, but we were still carrying on somewhat and now that all this shit with his ex is coming out in the open i just want to set his house on fire. i wouldn't literally but i can't explain how angry i am.
that was more of a rant than anything, but there is my story.
i know he is going to try and show up at my apartment tonight and talk to me and i am thinking of meeting him at the door and dumping a can of pop on his head before closing the door and telling him i hope it doesn't hit him in the ass on the way out.
i'll explain my story without trying to drag it on forever.
i am 17wks pregnant. met FOB when he was in a relationship with someone else, we worked together and got to know each other as close friends in the beginning. from the beginning he told me of his unhappiness w his current relationship and it got to a point where he told me they were breaking up and it was best for both of them. he went as far as to show me text msgs proving that things between them were off, etc. there had always been strange things that rubbed me the wrong way, there were warning signs of him hiding things but he was so genius at explaining his way out of everything and turning things around on me. we were together 6 months when we started TTC. he already has a 6 yr old daughter from a 1 night stand that he has always taken care of and been close with and said that he wanted me to make him a father a second time. he told me he wanted to pay for me to go back to college, that he wanted me to move into his house, and that the day i got pregnant he would buy me a ring. it took a couple months, and there were nights i would cry to him about worrying that i wouldn't be able to get pregnant as the doctor told me i may have trouble. i finally did get pregnant and i couldn't explain the shock, i couldn't believe that my time had come and how wonderful this was going to be for us both, and the start of something so amazing between us, a wonderful life together. he ignored me for a couple days after i told him the news, took off to the cottage and wouldn't answer my calls. when he came back the truth came out about a whole bunch of things he had been lying about, unfinished business with his ex, that she considered them to still be on the verge of working things out, lying about financial things, etc etc. he demanded that i have an abortion, said he never wanted this child, and wasn't ready. he is fourty fricken years old btw. he said that he only told me that he wanted me to get pregnant those 100 times that he did because he knew it was what i wanted to hear and didn't think i could actually get pregnant. he offered me ten grand to have an abortion, even though i doubt he even had the money in the first place. of course, i said no. a few weeks later he then told me he wanted to try and work things out and was thinking we should be a family and possibly get married. then a few weeks later he changed his mind again, basically it's just been complete bullshit from the start. he has stood back and watched me, an 18 year old girl who isn't currently working much and living off a lot of savings buy everything for the baby. the crib, tons of clothing, go to all my appointments by myself, ultrasounds, etc. he has driven me to appointments a couple times and then leaving to say, go pick up his 'ex' from work or something like that. for the past few weeks he has said that if the child truly is his that he will be there for the child. he tried to tell me he will only give me 200 a month for the child, and i said it had to atleast be 300. every day he whines about the fact that he has to pay 300 measly dollars for this child. he refuses to tell his family or his ex about the baby. he still says that i have ruined his life and complicated everything. well sorry i got in the way of all your bullshit there buddy. the latest thing he told me is that he is back living with his ex and is going to try and work things out apparently, he keeps denying his child to her. she hates me and has made it very clear that she won't allow the child to spend nights at her house or what not, that's fine with me wouldn't want her touching my child anyways to be quite honest. he thinks it will be perfectly fine is he just drops in once and a while to see the baby and keep it from his family and her and that i should be perfectly okay with that. today over text message he admitted to me that he has been sleeping with us both at the same time basically the whole time i was with him. or at the very least she was s&cking his dick. sorry to be graphic. i have lost all my friends since getting pregnant, they are all to busy carrying on to even give me a call and ask how i'm doing. my family lives an hour away. i'm working from home right now so little social interaction at all. he was basically all i had left, and i think that i should just stop talking to him since it's getting worse and worse. we have not been TOGETHER since i found out i was pregnant, but we were still carrying on somewhat and now that all this shit with his ex is coming out in the open i just want to set his house on fire. i wouldn't literally but i can't explain how angry i am.
that was more of a rant than anything, but there is my story.
i know he is going to try and show up at my apartment tonight and talk to me and i am thinking of meeting him at the door and dumping a can of pop on his head before closing the door and telling him i hope it doesn't hit him in the ass on the way out.
Why would I want that type of man to be an influence in my child's life? I wouldn't... so good riddance to men like him!
And if it comes down to it, go through government for child support, and let him whine like a baby all he wants about it. In fact, saves you having to put up with his complaining, if the government handles it. 
