I'm scared :(

[Angel022605]

Hey everyone,
I'm not new to BNB but I'm new to this catergory. I'm scared. I think my first cousin mat be infertile but her mother(my aunt by marriage) had no trouble conceiving. And that's on my dad's side. My first cousin on my moms side his GF mc but I don't know the cause of the mc.And his mother(my aunt from blood) had no trouble conceiving 3 boys. My cousin and his GF got preg right away easily. My second cousin on my dad's side had 3 mc. My second cousin on my moms side had one mc. My dad's sis (my blood aunt) had endo and mc her second baby. Endo runs in my family. I try to think pos. Our of all the generations my maternal and paternal grandmothers had endo, my moms sis and dad's sis had endo, and my mom had endo, and my younger sis had endo and all got pregnant easily multiple times(minus my younger sis). I'm just worried to death I'm in the same boat and have loads of Endo that would cause me infertility. Can someone please tell me I'm not alone?? I'm trying to be patient because I'm TTC#1 and this is my first cycle trying. But I'm also 31 and have heard that once you reach 35 it's much harder to get pregnant. Please tell me I'm not alone. I'm scared. If you read my entire post thank you. All support and responses welcome

 

[harley.quinn]

Hi Angel!

This is all my first cycle trying- but my husband and I have been NTNP for 6 years, i'm 34 years old.

I got pregnant once prior to my husband in my early 20's but it ended in a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks ....

I know i should have seen a doctor by now, but i'm scared they are going to tell me I can't conceive again..or for some reason won't be able to carry to term after the MMC

getting to my mid-30's now i am terrified that it won't happen. but i am finally going to get myself to a doctor ASAP- (i'm going to call on Monday to get an appt)

so you are definitely not alone

 

[Fellowes79]

31? You're a baby! I ttc number 1 at 32... Had her at 33. My oldest sister has endo and ended up conceiving naturally (at 35). I would say to try for a few months and if you are unsuccessful go to your OB. Good luck!

 

[awnmyown]

Hi Angel. I think we all really worry a lot when we start TTC, and that's natural. I know I analyzed everyone in my family tree to try to understand what impact genetics would have on me and on my DH, and how it may affect our chances.

The reality is that you won't know until you're in the thick of it. Try to remember that each month you have a chance to conceive, and maximize it. OPKs, bbt, lots of baby dancing. Focus on what you want and know that miscarriages happen to EVERYONE. They're not usually a result of something being wrong with the mother or father, just an unfortunate turn of events. Endo has not stopped many woman from having children and our health care is leaps and bounds ahead in terms of being able to help with conception.

Right now?? Get out there and baby dance!!! Allow yourself to worry and be sad when AF comes, but the next day pick yourself back up and go at it again. Have a game plan for when you'll get help, when you'll try assistance, when you'll try something else. And then tackle each cycle as it comes.

Don't count yourself out until you are!! You might surprise yourself