im so sad has any 1 been through the same thing

[kelly brown]

hi there i have had 2 miscarrages now once in april then again in september i am 25 yrs off age me and my husband do not smoke,alchol,drugs we both eat healthly but we both want a baby more than any thing why does this keep happening to me i know no one will no but has this happened to any 1 eles i fill so alone i have got 2 people at work pregant and one gril is really rubbing it in my face as soonas i enter a room so mentions it she goes on about it all day my friend has just had a little girl its like evert one eles life is moving on and mine is stuck at a hault i am so down and pi**ed off we really want this and its not happening please help and give me advice really need to no why but hospital wont do test untill my 3rd

 

[honeybunch2k7]

First of all,

I've had one loss, but I know it's not fun to be around pregnant women and women with newborns.

Is there any doctor around who could do testing? I think the policy of waiting until the 3rd loss is bs!

 

[JASMAK]

I have had three losses now, and although I already have two children, I am, like you, pissed off, and hurting tremendously. Each time I get pregnant, I think that this MUST be it, and then I lose the baby. It feels like a cruel joke, and I have become obsessive about what I eat, what I breathe in, where I go...vitamins, etc. I think it is ridiculous that they make women wait until three. The only tested me after 2 because of my age, and because we went so long without any protection (4 years without protection now, 2 years actively TTC). Sometimes I think that women should just lie to get what they need done. Please don't think poorly of me for saying that, it's just that I too have become very frustrated and I don't think DR's understand how much it hurts. Sorry for your losses.

 

[charliesmom]

I’m in the exact situation as you, except I just turned 26 not long ago. We did and are still doing everything right, but my baby won’t stick. I’m trying for my third now… just to get it over with so the hospital will start doing tests. It’s very depressing. The only thing keeping me remotely sane is this forum, and being able to try again.

 

[tillymum]

I know how hard it is, i've lost at least 2 in the last 6 months and i panic and worry constantly that I'll never have a baby of my own. I'm 36 so they have started tests though i'm so worried about the results part of me doesn't want to know!
I cling onto hope and a positive attitude (when i'm not panicking and worrying!!) that I WILL become a mother and I will carry a baby full term. Each pregnancy is different and that NEXT TIME will be a keeper.
So sending you lots of PMA and sticky vibes and you will get your baby soon.

Personally I'm aiming for a Christmas BFP so that's giving me something to focus on right now, I deserve a bit of luck and happiness by the end of the year.

 

[Flossie03]

I'm sorry for your loss I just wanted to let you know I've also had 2 losses but I also have a healthy son so it can happen, not much help I know when you are going through this but I hope it will reassure you that things can work out ok x

 

[SJK]

very sorry x

 

[Barneyboo]

So sorry for your losses x x x

 

[cleckner04]

I've only had one loss but that is still too many IMO. I think they should test after one loss and I also think they should monitor early pregnancy more instead of waiting till nearly the second trimester before giving a scan to see how the baby is. The first trimester is the most fragile and yet virtually NO medical care is provided throughout it!

 

[dizzy65]

i no its hard i have had 2 m/c my self and it is really annoying to me because i see these girls that get pregnant with out even trying.. why is it so hard for the people that actually want it? it sucks so bad.. you are defantly not alone.. Keep ur head held up high it will happen for u, and ignor the people that try and make u feel like crap..

 

[earthmother05]

aww sorry to hear this all. I know where everyone is coming from. I have suffered 4 miscarriages in a row now and it seems every person around me is either having a baby, or thinks they have the perfect solution for me to have a problem free pregnancy. I feel such a let down at times

 

[xclairex]

hi hun i have had 3 losses ive had test and the hospital said evrything was fine im so worried about my next pregnancy but i have some hope it will go well 3 of my sisters have jus found out they are pregnat 2 of them have been pg before and were fine and my other sis well hers is a miracle baby as she had cancer at 14 and got told she couldnt have children didnt have a period for 7 months and she is 22 weeks pregnant now so im thrilled for her but keep thinkin why me if u ever need a chat then im here hun xx

 

[Drazic<3]

Ive only had one loss, but tbh it broke my heart.
Anyone who tries to rub it in is seriously sick. Im so sorry you have been through this then have to deal with that on top.

This will happen for you. im sure

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh darling. I am a bit older than you (37) and am just suffering my 2nd m/c this year. I desperately want a child and yes, it is very hard when people around you are pregnant or have children themselves.

The only comfort I have, is that I can easily get pregnant. Nothing to brag about I know but it is the staying pregnant I am having trouble with.

 

[honeybunch2k7]

I have had three losses now, and although I already have two children, I am, like you, pissed off, and hurting tremendously. Each time I get pregnant, I think that this MUST be it, and then I lose the baby. It feels like a cruel joke, and I have become obsessive about what I eat, what I breathe in, where I go...vitamins, etc. I think it is ridiculous that they make women wait until three. The only tested me after 2 because of my age, and because we went so long without any protection (4 years without protection now, 2 years actively TTC). Sometimes I think that women should just lie to get what they need done. Please don't think poorly of me for saying that, it's just that I too have become very frustrated and I don't think DR's understand how much it hurts. Sorry for your losses.

You might be right.

 

[applegirl]

hi hon. I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I have had 4 miscarriages in a row - I am much older than you at 35, but like you i am active and healthy, don't drink or smoke.

I pinned a lot of hopes on the test results after the 3rd mc, only to be told everything is normal. Unfortunately there is every possibility that this is just a random and awful twist of fate.

That being said - keeping on trying eventually does usually work. There is a woman in first tri named Tink who had 8 mcs in a row all at 5 weeks - and is now pregnant again. She just hit the 8 week mark and saw bean's heartbeat today - so don't give up babe. This is an awful kick in the teeth - but I believe it will get better and that your sticky bean is coming so soon.

 

[sarah_george]

Hi hun so sorry for your losses I had 2 miscarriages about 3 months apart earlier this year, I lost both around 6 weeks, I caught pregnant again just over 3 months ago and my focus was to just try and make 7 weeks.. then 8.. to my surprise i have now made 16 weeks and so far all is well *touch wood* i know there are others in the 2nd trimester who have also miscarried more than once and are currently having healthy pregnancies so dont give up hope, it will happen (sooner rather than later hopefully!) xxx

P.S just thought i'd add i'm 31 so hardly a spring chicken!!

 

[kelly brown]

thanks ladies for your kind reponses i am still deprerssed and sad we are going to trying in january hopefully xxx